The Downsides Of Being A Woman Who Really Loves Sex

I love sex. I’m sure you’re thinking, “Yeah girl, same!” — but I really love sex. It’s not an addiction and I can certainly live without it, but I don’t like to. I’m typically the aggressor in my relationships when it comes to sex and sadly, I haven’t met too many worthy opponents who can keep up with my high sex drive. The struggle is real — here’s what I have to put up with:

  1. A lack of worthy opponents.This is the biggest problem. Men can say they want sex multiple times a day ’til the cows come home, but when it comes down to it, they’re all talk and no game.
  2. People assume you’re promiscuous.Not that I give a damn what most people think, but my high sex drive seems to equate to easiness — which isn’t even a real thing, if you ask me!
  3. It can start fights.Sex can be a sore topic in relationships when one partner feels there isn’t enough of it… and I rarely think there’s enough! It’s weird to be the woman and be unhappy over the lack of nookie.
  4. It can make your man feel emasculated. I know I’ve dated a few guys who were kind of annoyed that I had sex toys that I used without them because they weren’t putting out. Men are so freakin’ sensitive, and they can feel super emasculated when women want and need sex more than they do.
  5. You size up every eligible bachelor. Every sexy guy is a possible partner. Although you probably don’t sleep with all of them (or maybe you do, which is totally cool, too),  you definitely check out every guy and think about them naked… and then hope they cant tell you’re undressing them with your eyes.
  6. You leave (or consider leaving) relationships if there isn’t enough sex. I’m guilty of this, and I’m fine with it. Sex matters, and when there isn’t enough, a whole host of problems can pop up. If your partner can’t meet you in the middle and you love sex, then it might not be the relationship for you.
  7. You automatically think something is wrong when the sex starts to taper off. New relationships are the best because there’s usually an abundance of sex. But if you’re like me, you start to think something is wrong when he stops wanting it as often because you still want it three times a day, like you had in the beginning.
  8. You masturbate… a lot. There’s nothing wrong with this in theory, but it can get pricey if you buy a lot of toys. Plus, you might insult your partner if he thinks you don’t need him at all anymore.
  9. You get antsy if it’s been more than a few days and you haven’t gotten any. It’s not an addiction, but it’s definitely a stress reliever. When you’re a woman who loves regular sex and you don’t get it, it just makes you feel like your whole rhythm is off.
  10. You’ve probably had sex just for the sake of it. Most women have probably had sex just for the sake of having it when they haven’t in a while. But, when you’re a sex lover, you’ve maybe done it more often than other women… and probably weren’t sorry about it.
C. is an aspiring yogi and Ph.D student who loves her dogs, bright lipstick and to travel. Find her on IG @drparko121314