Dry Your Tears — He Just Did You A Big Favor By Breaking Up With You

Breakups can truly suck, especially if you were madly in love with your boyfriend. Even when you’re crying your eyes out,  honestly you should be thanking the loser for running out on you. Here’s why.

  1. He’s freeing you up to find yourself. Nothing makes you take stock of your life and yourself like a breakup. Sometimes it can also be a wakeup call if you lost yourself to the relationship and didn’t realize it. Now’s the time to figure out who you are and what you want.
  2. He’s saved you time. Instead of sticking around and wasting your valuable time, he’s gone away so you can put that time to much better use. So nice of him, actually.
  3. He’s saved you some money. You might wonder what money has to do with it, but there are always financial costs in relationships. Sometimes they’re small, like the money you spend on buying gorgeous clothing or paying for some dates, and other times they’re big, like helping to pay rent. Either way, you’ve got the chance to use that money on better things. Go on and spoil yourself.
  4. He’s letting you meet the right guy. He wasn’t the right guy for you, otherwise he wouldn’t have broken up with you. But who cares? He’s giving you a chance to meet Mr. Right. Now you’re single again and giving out “I’m available” signals when you hit the clubs.
  5. He’s teaching you something valuable. Every relationship teaches you something and boosts your self-growth. So maybe this guy taught you that you shouldn’t make a relationship the most important thing in your life or that you shouldn’t be too trusting. Whatever the case, that lesson is more valuable than your loser ex would ever be because it’s making you more powerful.
  6. He might be a better friend than boyfriend. So he sucks as a boyfriend because he broke your heart, but no matter. He might actually be better suited as a friend — that is, if you don’t have the temptation to gouge his eyes out when he’s around. A friendship can be so much more precious than a relationship, and best of all, you don’t have to listen to him snore at night because he’ll be in his own bed.
  7. You don’t have to deal with his annoying habits. Think of all the ways he used to irritate the crap out of you and be glad that you don’t have to deal with them anymore. Maybe he used to talk about himself too much, he was rude to your loved ones, or he expected you to clean up after him. Ugh, who needs that?
  8. You don’t have to pretend to like his friends. Forcing a smile when his friends would rock up might have given you cheek spasms because they were such childish, annoying, or arrogant guys. Now you can make sure you only spend time with people who put your fake smile out of business.
  9. You can do whatever you want. When you’re in a relationship, you might forget how awesome it is to be able to do whatever you want without worrying about what your boyfriend will think. You can flirt with that cute guy at the supermarket, go away for the weekend, or stop shaving your legs. Same goes for those activities you always wanted to do, but he was never keen on. Yeah, now’s the time to have a Nicholas Sparks movie marathon.
  10. You can get out of your comfort zone. You might have fallen into a bit of a relationship rut without even realizing it, such as if you were always hanging out at the same places and doing the same things with your boyfriend. Now that you’re single again, you can try new things, chase new passions, and make new friends. Stretch out of your comfort zone and have fun.
  11. You can face your fears of being alone. When you’re in a long-term relationship, the idea of being single again can be terrifying AF. But honestly, once you’re in it again, you’ll realize that it’s much more liberating than terrifying. You can handle your life and those lonely Friday nights. You don’t need a man to make your life better. You can do that all by yourself, and it’ll take a really amazing man to make you leave your single life the next time because you’re having too much fun.
  12. You can spend more time with your friends. Being single again is the perfect time to reconnect with your friends (otherwise known as The People Who Will Never Dump You), because chances are you never saw them as much as you wanted to when you were in a relationship. Now’s the time to fix that.
  13. You get to have breakup sex — with someone else. Maybe the sex life you had with your boyfriend was fantastic, or maybe not. Whatever the case, now’s not the time to think about him naked. What you need is to go out and have some breakup sex with someone else. It’s a great way to realize that there are so many other guys and types of amazing sex out there. Best of all, you can enjoy it without the guilt you’d experience if you were still his GF.
  14. You get to meet your inner tough cookie. Getting your heart smashed into pieces is scary and painful, but getting through the breakup makes you so much stronger. It really does toughen you up because you’ve gone through a crappy experience and totally survived it without once drunk-texting him on a Saturday night. Winning.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.