If You Ever Want To Be With Mr. Right, You Have To Break Up With Mr. Wrong

You’re dating a guy and it’s going well, but deep down you know he’s not “The One.” You could end things, go back to being single, but it’s so much easier to stay. Big mistake! If you really want to find Mr. Right, then you’re going to have to break up with Mr. Wrong.

  1. The longer you’re with wrong guy, the longer you’ll have to wait for the right one. You’re wasting your life on the wrong guy. You know he’s not right for you but you’re still letting him take up so much of your time — WTF? There’s no knight in shining armor to come in and save you because you’re no damsel in distress. It’s up to you to save yourself and get out of this relationship.
  2. Unhealthy relationships set you back. Unhealthy relationships can do serious damage to your self-esteem. You deserve to be with a great guy, but the longer you stay in bad situations, the more you’ll need to fix yourself first. You need to be a whole person on your own and find happiness within yourself. You need to heal from your unhealthy relationship before you can actually embark on a healthy one.
  3. Once you break up with him, you still have to get over him. Just because he’s not the right guy for you doesn’t mean losing him won’t have an effect. You not only have to break up with Mr. Wrong, you also have to get over him. You aren’t a good match, but that doesn’t mean you won’t wish things could have turned out differently. That takes time to process and move past, you know.
  4. You have to put the past behind you before you can focus on your future. If Mr. Wrong is still in your life, how do you expect to find Mr. Right? Even if he wasn’t the right guy for you, he’s still a part of your life. Right now he’s in your present, but what you need to do is put him in your past. Only then will you truly be able to look forward to your future.
  5. Being in a bad relationship isn’t better than being single. Sometimes you really are better off alone. You just have to find the strength to be on your own. Being single can really be the best thing for you. You learn how to be independent so that you realize that you don’t actually need a guy in your life, it’d just be nice to have one. Learning how to find happiness on your own is the best way to finally know how to decipher a good relationship from a bad one. You need to learn what you deserve.
  6. Mr. Right won’t hit on you if you’re taken. There’s something standing in your way of finding true love, and that something is  your current boyfriend. When a guy sees you out with your boyfriend, he automatically puts you in the taken category. The good guys aren’t going to waste their time on girls who they know are unavailable. If you want a new guy, you have to be single first.
  7. If you really want true love, why are you settling? That doesn’t make any sense. You dream of a man who will come in and sweep you off your feet, but you’re too scared to go out and get him. You’re standing in the way of your own love story. You deserve better but you’ll never have better until realize that you’re worthy of more than just a feeling of content.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.