As single women, sometimes we can get so desperate to find a good man that we find ourselves doing all kinds of weird stuff to make it happen — including, apparently, “vabbing.” If you’ve never heard of it, vabbing is basically using your own, erm, bodily fluids from down below as a perfume of sorts to attract men with your sexy pheromones. And yes, more and more women are actually doing this.
What’s the deal with vabbing?
- The term “vabbing” was coined back in 2019. Sex expert and author Shan Boodram was the first to begin talking about the idea of taking “advantage of your pheromones” by using your own vaginal fluid on your pulse points. It’s something she’s tried many times herself. “I am certain that every single time I employ it, it makes me feel like an enchanted goddess with a delicious secret,” she wrote in her book, The Game of Desire.
- A recent TikTok video brought “vabbing” into the mainstream. In a video that’s since been deleted from the social media platform, Mandy Lee claimed that anyone who tried this would see amazing results. “I swear if you vab, you will attract people, like a date, a one-night stand. Or you’ll just get free drinks all night,” she claimed. “Elle Woods should have been teaching vabbing instead of the bend and snap.”
- Plenty of commenters agreed. While you might think the idea would gross out most women, vabbing is actually pretty popular and there are loads of women who swear by it. As one commenter shared: “I have done this for years and it works every single time. Men go crazy for the scent.” Hey, it’s hard out here, so whatever works, I guess!
- Science doesn’t necessarily back the idea up. So far, all the evidence for the effectiveness of vabbing is anecdotal. Researchers have been looking into the idea of human pheromones influencing attraction since the 1970s, but according to Scientific American, there hasn’t been much conclusive evidence either way. “So far, scientists have had some success in demonstrating that exposure to body odor can elicit responses in other humans,” experts explained. “There is no evidence of a consistent and strong behavioral response to any human-produced chemical cue.”
- Realistically, maybe men should be the ones vabbing. Mark Elgar, a professor of evolutionary biology at the University of Melbourne says that while it’s “hilarious,” he doesn’t think vabbing should be taken too seriously, especially since biologically speaking, it makes less sense for women to be doing it than men. “If you’re going to look at it from a biological perspective. You don’t need to do any of this stuff. It’s the boys that should be dancing in front of you, telling you how great they are,” he insists. “As females, you’re the ones making the choices.”
