I Expect The Best From Guys & That’s Exactly Why I’ll Get What I’m Looking For

If being single AF was supposed to make me stop believing in love, it has basically done the opposite. I may not be a total hopeless romantic, but I want my own love story and I’m determined to make it a reality. I expect the best of love and that’s exactly why I’ll get it.

  1. I have good relationship role models. I see people in legit relationships all around me, from my parents’ decades-long marriage to good friends who have been dating their significant others for five years. I know that being in love for real is totally possible, so there’s no reason I wouldn’t strive for that too.
  2. Settling isn’t in my vocab. If I was going to settle, I would have done so a long time ago. There have been tons of guys that were almost there or kind of good enough. Since I always want the best for myself, that just wasn’t going to happen.
  3. I’m totally cool with walking away. Meeting a new guy that I’m into can be super tricky since I’m never sure at first if the supposed red flags are real… or I’m just being kind of paranoid. Once I realize that I can’t be with someone, I’m okay with walking away. I don’t regret my choices, even when I’m still single months later.
  4. I don’t think real love is a fantasy. It’s easy to believe that my generation has totally given up on going on actual dates or even being in a relationship. I know so many single women who deserve love and yet go on the crappiest dates in the world. I just can’t believe that real love is only a fantasy. I think it’s out there and I’m going to get it.
  5. I have high standards for all aspects of my life. A long time ago, I decided I would be happy and healthy no matter what, and I changed my lifestyle and cut out super toxic people. I have high standards for all aspects of my life. I love my job, have really amazing friends and only talk to the family members who are actually sweet and supportive. It only makes sense that I have high standards when it comes to my love life, too.
  6. I’m not capable of ignoring what doesn’t feel right. I’m that friend who worries if someone is dating the wrong partner or not realizing they’re being taken advantage of somehow. I’m just not able to ignore what doesn’t feel right, whether that’s a guy I’ve just started dating or a situation my BFF is dealing with. I can only move forward with someone if he’s truly the best and if there are no weird or uncomfortable feelings.
  7. I’ve done the work on myself and am ready. I’ve never really been someone obsessed with having a boyfriend but there was a time years ago when that seemed super important. I still want one — but I’ve figured out who I am and what kind of girlfriend I can be, which is even more important. Since I’ve done the hard work on myself, I feel super ready for an actual relationship, and I only want the very best for myself. I don’t want to waste my good qualities on a jerk who doesn’t deserve me.
  8. I know who my person should be. Everyone has an idea of their ideal match. While it doesn’t pay to be so strict about what a partner should look like that the search becomes totally impossible, it’s also a good idea to know. I definitely have a sense of who my person should be. Just because I’m still searching for him doesn’t mean he’s not out there. It literally just means we haven’t crossed paths yet.
  9. I feel hopeful about the future. As a single woman, I have my moments of doubt that I’m ever going to find someone. I feel lonely and wonder if all these dates are ever going to be worth it. But lately, I feel hopeful about future, and that’s a pretty welcome change. I believe my best relationship is still to come, and that’s much better than the miserable alternative.
  10. I’ve had the best of love before. I haven’t been in love with anyone in years, but that doesn’t mean I’ve never swooned over someone special. My first love was a textbook good boyfriend: sweet, caring, always doing little things for me and being romantic in his own way. I’ve had the best of love before, so why can’t I have it again? I totally believe it’s just a matter of time.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.