Rent is expensive, food costs mount up, and bills are overwhelming—pretty much any method you can think of to bring in income is an option for broke millennials. A few weeks ago, I stumbled across the term “paypig” online. I had no idea what it was, but once I found out, I got my own to make a few bucks and it was an intense experience.
- It’s all about financial domination. While a paypig is a concept very similar to the idea of a sugar daddy, the only real difference is that financial domination is simply a kink, nothing more and nothing less. In fact, most paypigs get off on bowing down to a woman. The general idea is that women are above men and it’s a man’s duty to compliment, serve, and generally just do what is asked of them—including emptying their wallets.
- The paypig community is way bigger than you’d imagine. You can always count on Twitter to teach you something new. There I was, sitting in my PJs at 3 a.m. chatting with anyone that would answer me. There was so much to learn; there are professional findoms, groups of paypigs, and forums that are mostly used as marketing attempts. The community is huge.
- All it took was a follow to get DMs. After I realized what a paypig was, I was intrigued. Who wouldn’t be? After an hour or two of reading bios, tweets, chatting with some findoms, and a little bit of Googling, I decided to go for it. One follow couldn’t hurt. Then I put my phone down and forgot about it until the next morning when I woke up to a greeting from a paypig. That’s all it took.
- He was really cool with me being a beginner. I had no idea what I was doing. In theory, it was great, easy money to basically just play a character. The man I talked to took the time to explain to me what he wanted and what this whole arrangement would be like. Everything he asked for was simple. There was nothing too weird and it definitely wasn’t uncomfortable. The thing about paypigs is that it’s just a simple type of submissive/ dominant relationship. Most of the time, I was being “served,” which I should say isn’t terrible but it still does have its downsides.
- You always have to be ready.I can’t say it’s not a lot of work. There’s something exhausting about always being primped and proper, ready to do whatever it takes, whether it be physically ready to take pictures or videos or mentally ready to play this dominatrix character. At the end of the week, I was tired. It’s kind of like a 24-hour a day job; you never actually have a break.
- Admittedly, it was kind of nice to stay at home.I did love that I could do this from my room. I didn’t have to worry about a schedule or travel like I would with another job. I was fortunate to be able to do this all online because that’s how it started. I’m sure there are options to have a face-to-face arrangement with a paypig, but personally, I prefer to only bother dressing up from the waist up.
- Unfortunately, it had to end. While it was a nice amount of extra income, I was in college, which become an obstacle. I had assignments to do, and having another person to focus on and tend to was kind of like having a boyfriend, which I wasn’t ready for. I know it’s not really a relationship, but there definitely comes a point where it sure as hell feels like one. Finally, there was a point that the stress outweighed the income and I ended the arrangement.
- A word of advice: only accept PayPal or Venmo.If you’re are going to delve into this community, you have to be careful. As with anything to do with money, there are going to be scams. Paypigs that say they’ll only consider exchanging money via a bank transfer are ones you may want to be wary of. I’m sure most people know that it’s not safe to give your bank account info to a stranger, but you’d be surprised. PayPal and Venmo are much easier and much safer.
- I’m glad I tried it, but I’m not sure I’d do it again.The extra money is nice, but it’s certainly not a job replacement, at least not at an amateur level. There are weeks where you can make a thousand dollars while others, you get nothing at all. Plus, like most jobs, professions, or even relationships, it can end suddenly. I can’t say I’d spend much of my time doing something that wasn’t consistent and was way too unstable. Not to say there weren’t other problems. For example, I’ve never necessarily been dominate myself so putting on this character every day at the drop of a hat was exhausting. It just didn’t feel worth it. However, at the end of the day, if I needed to pay my rent, I could overlook the headache and try it all again.