Fed Up With Dating? It Could Be Because You’re About To Meet Your Person

You know how people are always saying that you’re going to meet the love of your life when you least expect it? Sure, you might roll your strong single girl eyes and think it sounds ridiculous, but there’s some truth to this statement. If you’re fed up with dating, here’s why you could be about to meet your person:

  1. You won’t deal with losers. You’ve dated enough of them, thank you very much. You’re not going to waste your time on commitment-phobes or guys who don’t realize how great you are. When you move past the kinds of guys you shouldn’t be dating, you create tons of space to meet the one who will be worth it.
  2. You’ve learned your lessons. You know when to walk away and you can even see that you’re about to get ghosted from a mile away. You’ve learned all the lessons that you should have learned by now — that you deserve the best, that you need respect and that you can’t convince anyone to change. You’re at the exact right point to fall in love for real this time.
  3. You’re older and wiser. There are certain crappy things that you would have accepted a year or even a few months ago, but now you’re stronger than ever before. This is exactly how you should be feeling. Nothing phases you, from slow texters to guys who have totally different careers than you. You can’t meet the one you’re supposed to be with if you’re freaking out about every little thing, so it’s awesome that you’re so calm, cool and collected.
  4. You’re living your life. Dating is pretty much like anything else: if you focus too much on it or want it too much, nothing good is ever going to happen. It’s like how when you desperately want a job, you never hear from the company ever again. As long as you’re living your life and having an amazing time, you’re setting yourself up to find true love.
  5. You’ve figured it all out. You’re not perfect or all-knowing, but you’ve definitely put in the time to think about why your past relationships (and even almost relationships) didn’t work out. You know how you want to act the next time you enter a new relationship. Now you just need the guy to show up so you can start.
  6. You’re mature. You’ve met enough immature guys to know that maturity plays a huge role in any relationship. You’re an adult and you expect the same from anyone that you date. When you meet someone that you’re into, you’re not going to whine and complain about everything that they do. You’re mature enough to handle a real relationship and that’s half the battle.
  7. You’re patient. Patience is a virtue and that’s particularly true when it comes to finding love. If you’re impatient, you’re just going to make yourself miserable because love doesn’t care how much you want it. Love is totally going to take its sweet time and it doesn’t give a crap about what you think. If you stay patient, you’re going to get what you want.
  8. You’re trying your best. You don’t need to kill yourself to fill up your calendar with first dates. You don’t need to force second dates when you’re not feeling anything. As long as you’re trying the best that you can to meet people and go out, you’re winning. You’re doing the right thing, and it will absolutely pay off.
  9. You don’t want to date. And that’s a good thing. If you loved dating, you would want to stay single and dating pretty much forever. You would be excited at the prospect of meeting a new guy all the time and you would never settle down. But you’re sick of the ghosting and almost everything and you’re completely fed up, so when you do meet a good guy, you’re never going to let him go.
  10. You’re finally ready. You can admit that in the past, you would freak when you met a guy you really liked because it meant saying goodbye to the status quo. You were comfortable with the way things were and you were scared to let someone new into your life and then have them possibly break your heart. Now you don’t feel that way at all. You’re finally ready for love and that’s exactly why you’re about to find it. It’s totally going to happen sooner than you think.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.