I own the fact that I wear my heart on my sleeve. I could be ashamed of my sensitivity, but instead I embrace it. Not only does it make me who I am, it makes me a better person, friend, and partner. Any guy who can’t handle that can GTFO.
- If I’m pissed, he’ll know. I’m not one of those girls who can be secretly upset and pretend I’m fine. If I’m hurting or angry, it’s going to show, to you and to the whole world. That doesn’t make me dramatic, it doesn’t make me spoiled, and it doesn’t mean I only care about myself. It just means I’m human, and I’ll never apologize for not batting my eyelashes and acting like everything is friggin’ hunky-dory.
- The only thing more intense than my lows are my highs. I don’t just feel the bad stuff, the good moments are broadcast loud and clear too. I celebrate every success, and my passion is so bright, it can light the best kind of fire. When I’m on cloud nine, everyone can see it, and it’s a quality that guys should admire, not admonish.
- I’m not interested in someone (else) berating me for my sensitivity. My walls are up pretty high thanks to the one who called me dramatic for having feelings. Been there, done that. If I wanted to feel awful for having/showing emotion, I would still be with that douchebag.
- If he can’t handle me, he shouldn’t pretend he can. I know he’ll want to give it a chance and see if maybe I’ll tone it down a notch in the future (pro tip—I won’t), but if it’s clear me being in touch with my emotions is too much for him, I wish he’d just be honest. He’ll save us both the wasted time and heartbreak by walking away before we’re both too far in.
- If he can stand it, he’ll help me heal. If he is, in fact, able to show me support when I let my guard down, the damaged parts my ex left behind might slowly start to fade. And who knows, maybe I’ll even bring out a more emotional side of my new guy too.
- All humans have feelings whether they show them or not. Just because he doesn’t cry when he’s happy, sad, confused and excited like me doesn’t mean he doesn’t have those emotions. In fact, the ones who choose to keep it inside might actually experience more emotion than the rest of us and just not notice it because they are so out of touch with their feelings. People are complicated as hell, and with this crazy life comes crazy change. Anyone who ignores that is just plain ignorant.
- Suppressing emotion causes serious damage. There’s nothing more dangerous than holding in intense outbursts, especially over a long period of time. Pent-up rage, sadness, or even the good stuff can breed nasty, narcissistic and rude behavior that no one wants to put up with. Why would I want to become that?! I much prefer to let it out. If I look back on the most miserable people I’ve ever dealt with in my life, every single one of them was completely incapable of showing emotion or handling the emotions of others.
- All my feelings are valid, whether he likes it or not. Asking him not to flirt with girls in front of me because it’s upsetting isn’t overreacting. Wanting him to text me back within 24 hours if we’re dating isn’t asking too much. Regardless of what he thinks, everything I “have too many feelings about” is actually totally legit. If it’s pissing him off, then the problem is clearly him, not me.
- I’ll always admit when I’ve crossed a line. Maybe not the minute it happens, but when I do have a drama queen moment, I’ll usually call myself on it in the end. AKA you don’t have to! If I’ve had a bad day, or am just in a crap mood, I can do and say things I’ll regret. But expressing my everyday feelings is a different thing entirely. While I’ll try to avoid the former, at least as much as I can, the later isn’t something I’m willing to compromise on.
- I don’t want to live my life trapped in my body. Sometimes I think some guys are looking for a puppet they can carry on their arms as they go about their day. But I’m not interested in being a guy’s doll—I want to be me, and I’m expressive as hell. He can take me as I am or he shouldn’t take me at all.
- I’m drawn to those who can express themselves. Guys think they’re supposed to be big and tough all the time but that’s not realistic. I need my guy to know that even if he breaks down, I’ll never see him as any less of a man. In fact, I’m attracted to someone who isn’t afraid to let it out. It will make us even closer as a couple because I’ll feel like I’m seeing the real him, not just the facade he wants to show the rest of the world.
