How To Fight The Urge To Text Your Ex Around The Holidays

The holidays are supposed to be a time of love and cheer. That’s why most single ladies will be tempted to get back together with an old flame. However, you don’t want to contact your ex just because you’re feeling lonely. Here’s how to fight the urge to message your ex around the holidays:

  1. Stop listening to “Last Christmas.” Avoid mushy holiday movies and music. You don’t want to get swept up in the moment and end up doing something you regret. Don’t let yourself get brainwashed by Christmas cheer.
  2. Focus on your family. The holidays are a time to appreciate the people that are still in your life. Instead of focusing on the ex that left, focus on the friends and family members that were there for you after the breakup. They’ll make you happier than your ex ever could.
  3. Find someone new to kiss under the mistletoe. You’re not the only one feeling lonely around this time of year. If you go to a holiday party, or sign up for a dating site, you’ll come across plenty of men who feel the same way as you do. They’ll be more than happy to warm you up during the cold winter months.
  4. Drink some eggnog. When you’re feeling down, a little bit of eggnog could be all you need to start feeling jolly again. Just don’t go overboard, and make sure to keep your phone far away, so you don’t end up drunk texting your ex by the end of the night.
  5. Toss out the ornaments he gave you. You don’t need daily reminders of your ex. Don’t hang up the ornaments that he bought you. Don’t look through photos that you took together last Christmas. Out of sight, out of mind.
  6. Do volunteer work. If you want to get him off of your mind, you need to keep yourself busy. This is the perfect time of the year to help others in need, so sign up at your local church, soup kitchen, or animal shelter. When you realize how big other people’s problems are, you’ll stop stressing about your love life.
  7. Go to holiday parties. Instead of moping around at home, attend every holiday party you’re invited to. You never know who you’ll meet there. You could find the man that you’ll end up spending every other December with for the rest of your life.
  8. Remember that spending the holidays alone isn’t so bad. There are downsides to being single around the holidays, but the good outweighs the bad. After all, you won’t have to waste money on extra gifts or spend time with your in-laws. You’ll be having a happier holiday than all of your married friends, that’s for sure.
  9. Delete his number. Whether it’s December or not, the easiest way to avoid contacting your ex is to take away your ability to do so. That means you should delete his number and unfriend him on Facebook. He’s part of your Christmas past now.
  10. Know that one text message won’t change anything. The “Merry Christmas” text you’ve been debating sending him isn’t as big of a deal as you think. Even though the holiday season has put him in a good mood, that doesn’t mean he’s going to forget about everything that happened in the past and automatically ask you to be his girlfriend again.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.