I Finally Found The Man Who Made All Those Losers Worth It

I Finally Found The Man Who Made All Those Losers Worth It

For a long time, I wondered if love was worth the inevitable heartbreak. After a series of failed relationships and the subsequent pain that I barely survived, I just wasn’t sure the risk was worth the possible reward. Now I know it is because every man who ever hurt me was worth the one man I know never will.

  1. I survived heartbreak and I’m stronger than ever. I could have let those men beat me. I could have stopped trying to find love and given up, settling for a life alone, but I didn’t. I survived heartbreak and I kept fighting for love, hoping that one day I’d find a love that was worth fighting for. Finally, I found just that. I’m a heartbreak survivor and despite all the risk, I finally won my reward.
  2. He healed all of my pain. I was moving on and letting go on my own. I had been single for a long time and I thought I had fully recovered, but I hadn’t really — not until I met the guy I consider to be the love of my life. The loves I lost left scars on my heart. I wasn’t broken but I was damaged. I may have moved on but I never truly forgot them until I met the man who made me forget all the rest. They’re not worthy of my memory because the only thing I have room for now is my future with this amazing man.
  3. If I took a different path, I may not have ended up here. If my past relationships didn’t fall apart at the seams, I may not have ended up with the man I’m with now. I’m grateful for everything I went through before because it led me here, to my current guy. I went through hell but now I’m in heaven. The journey may have been rough, but there’s no doubt in my mind that he was worth it.
  4. This is the love I always knew I deserved. When it came to the men before him, I was settling. I may have loved them in some way, but I was still dreaming of my own personal Prince Charming. They weren’t my fairytale and I began to think that in real life, happy endings didn’t exist. Then I met “The One.” This is the love I always dreamed of. This is the man I always knew I deserved. This is true love.
  5. I never thought I’d be able to trust again. Yet here I am, falling in love all over again, and this time I know it’s right. I don’t worry about whom he’s with or where he’s going. I’m confident in our love and I’m confident in him. For once in my life, I don’t have to feel like the crazy girlfriend with the urge to snoop. I trust him entirely and that’s something I never thought I could do.
  6. No matter what, I know he’ll always be there. I couldn’t depend on any of them men that came before him. I started to believe that no man would ever be there for me the way I wanted them to be, but the one I’m with now proved that theory wrong. No matter what ups and downs I go, through there’s a person I can always count on — and for once that person isn’t me.
  7. I don’t miss my exes anymore. I don’t wish things had worked out with my exes because then I wouldn’t have the wonderful man who sleeps next to me every night. I used to daydream about what life would have been like if things turned out differently. I wished that I’d never fallen out of love, but now I’m so glad I did because this love and this guy is so much better than all the rest.
  8. I started to believe something was wrong with me before I met him. He showed me that I wasn’t damaged goods. There was never anything wrong with me other than the fact that I just wasn’t with the right guys. My previous relationships didn’t work out because those guys weren’t right for me, and it’s working out now because he is.
  9. I don’t have to question his love. With the men I dated before, I was always afraid of the end. I couldn’t focus on the present because I was too worried about the future, but I don’t have that fear anymore. I don’t have to be afraid to close my eyes at night because I’m worried the next day might be our last. In fact, I know there’s no last day for us. He loves me and I love him and I’m confident that our love is going to last not just a lifetime, but forever.
  10. He made me believe in love again. I thought I loved my exes, but that’s nothing compared to the love I have now. The love I had with the men before him was childish, but this love is so mature. My love for my exes faded over time, but I know that this one never will. He loves me as much as I love him and that’s an amazing feeling.
  11. I’d do it all over again just to be with him. If I could go back and change my past, I wouldn’t. Regardless of how painful my previous relationships were, I can’t deny that they brought me to him. I’m with this guy because of the struggles I went though. I wouldn’t trade the tears, the pain, the heartache, or the depression for the world. If I had the chance to go back, I’d let every man hurt me all over again just to end up with the one man I know never will. He’s worth it.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has been blogging for over four years and writing her whole life. Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.