Introverts aren’t undatable. They just prefer to spend their days with close friends than out at parties filled with strangers. That’s why it can be hard for them to meet people, and even harder for them to remain in healthy relationships. Of course, introverts can make the best girlfriends, as long as they’re able to handle these dating struggles:
- Never going further than eye contact. You like a guy and you’re pretty sure he likes you, but you can’t gather the courage to talk to him. Instead, you two will just have eye sex with each other all day long. Unless he decides to makes a move, you’re never going to have an actual conversation with him.
- Spending hours thinking of a response. You’re thrilled that you exchanged numbers with your crush, but now that he’s texting you, you can’t figure out how to reply. You’ll type up several different responses until you figure out the perfect one. Of course, by the time you’re finished, at least an hour has gone by.
- Your crush assuming you’re uninterested. You’re not the type to blurt out your opinion in a crowded room. You mostly keep quiet, which is why your crush might assume you have zero interest in him. He might even think you’re snobby for keeping your distance when you’re really just uncomfortable in social situations.
- Having an easier time talking online. You’ve met the perfect man, but even though you’ve hit it off online, you’re worried about meeting him in person. You know that you’re better at typing than talking, so you’re nervous that he’ll lose interest when he talks to you face-to-face.
- Feeling awkward during small talk. You’re comfortable with your boyfriend, but now that things are getting serious, he wants you to meet his friends and family. That means you’ll need to engage in the awkward smalltalk that always makes you feel self-conscious. Of course, you don’t want your boyfriend to know how much you’re dreading the occasion, because he’ll be offended.
- Getting annoyed when he’s late. When your date shows up late, you freak out. You don’t want to sit alone in public. You don’t want to call him and complain about his tardiness, either. That’s why you end up stewing in your discomfort until he arrives.
- Not speaking up to him. When your date does something to upset you, you want to tell him off. However, since you don’t know him all that well yet, you’re too nervous to state your opinion.
- Wanting to turn down his invitations. You’d normally turn down an invitation to a big party, but your boyfriend is insisting you go with him. You don’t want to be rude, so you suck it up and agree to tag along. Of course, the whole time you’ll follow him around, hoping he doesn’t leave you to mingle by yourself.
- Needing sufficient alone time. Your boyfriend wants to spend the entire weekend with you, because he doesn’t realize how much alone time you really need. It’s not that you don’t want to spend time with him. You just need some time to recharge after your dates.
- Having conflicting interests. Your idea of the perfect date is going camping in a secluded area. Meanwhile, your boyfriend loves to spend time in the city, but you hate big crowds, so you can never agree on where to spend your weekend.
