Why Finding Love Is So Much Harder For Strong Women

Being a strong woman is an amazing thing. It means that you don’t put up with anyone’s crap, you go after what you want, and you’re perfectly capable of dealing with whatever curveballs life throws at you on your own. However, all of those things and more make it so much more difficult for these women to find love.

  1. They have high standards because they know what they bring to the table. Strong women know their worth and know that any man would be lucky to date them. They have high standards for potential partners, just like they have high standards for themselves. It makes it more difficult for them to fall in love because it’s nearly impossible to find someone who checks all of the boxes.
  2. They refuse to settle. Not just in relationships or with potential partners, but in life in general. Strong women know what they want and they won’t settle for anything less. This is good because it means they won’t waste their time in a relationship with someone that doesn’t measure up. However, that makes finding love a serious challenge.
  3. They can be intimidating. Strong women aren’t afraid to voice their own opinions and won’t back down from a situation just to smooth things over. Sometimes being opinionated and sure of oneself can scare people away, which is another reason strong women have a difficult time finding love.
  4. They might have a lot of guy friends. Strong women often give off a “don’t-mess-with-me” vibe and they do what they want without worrying about other people’s opinions or judgment. These types of women often have a lot of male friends, which might make it more difficult for them to find love because any potential partners have to be accepting of their friendships. On the flip side, their friends have to like a strong woman’s new guy, which might make it even more difficult for a strong woman to find love.
  5. They’re confident in themselves. They don’t need validation from anyone else, and that includes a man. They don’t care about what other people think or whether or not they’re liked. Winning over a strong woman takes a lot more effort than many men are used to having to put into a relationship.
  6. They don’t play relationship games or feel compelled to follow any set of “rules.” Although it’s so much easier to just be straightforward when it comes to feelings and relationships, many people play relationship games and worry about whether to text first or when to sleep with someone they’ve been seeing. When it comes to love and life in general, strong women don’t follow any traditional rules, which can scare off potential partners and make it a challenge for them to find love.
  7. They’re confrontational when they have to be. They aren’t the type of person to ignore any gut urges or excuse any sketchy behavior in order to avoid a fight or salvage a relationship. They also pay attention to red flags and if one pops up, they don’t hesitate to be direct and bring it up. Often times, the reason strong women are so bold and have such incredible strength is that they’ve dealt with their own share of BS and have been screwed over in the past, so they know many of the warning signs.
  8. They don’t give second chances and move on easily. Strong women don’t have the time to teach a man how to be a good partner or what’s right and what’s wrong in a relationship. If someone they’re dating does something that’s disrespectful or less than what they know they deserve from a partner, they have no problem ending things and cutting the cord. They can easily let go of anything that isn’t good enough or causes stress and frustration, including people.
  9. They’re independent and value alone time. Strong women don’t feel the need to constantly surround themselves with people or feel compelled to always have a man by their side. They’re perfectly happy and even sometimes thrive off of spending time alone and they won’t spend time with just anybody. Being picky about who you spend your time with isn’t a bad thing, but it does make it more difficult to fall in love because you get to know fewer people.
  10. They don’t need to be in love with someone to be in love with their lives. Strong women are often confident, successful, energetic, social people with a busy schedule and sky-high goals. It’s not to say that they don’t want to fall in love and be in a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship, just that it’s not something they need. A strong woman doesn’t need a man to complete her life—she’s complete all on her own. They love the life they have chosen, created and fought for whether they’re in a relationship or not, which makes it more difficult for them to find someone who is worth letting into their world.
Kerry is a freelance writer from Boston, Massachusetts who now lives in the Sunshine State with the love of her life and her 15 month old daughter. She writes frequently about her personal experiences (find more of her work on www.followmetogetlost.wordpress.com). She has an Etsy shop with cute items: https://www.etsy.com/shop/FollowMeToGetLostWhen she's not writing, she loves to spend time outside, at the beach, and with her family.