Ugh, Fine, I’ll Admit It — I Really, Really Love Being In A Relationship

I’ve always thought that I was the independent type and that I loved being single more than anything else in the world. However, as the months of rolling solo continue to add up, I’ve realized that I’m actually more of a relationship girl. Here’s why:

  1. I love all that cheesy stuff couples do. A lot of people turn their noses up at all the annoying stuff couples do — sitting on the same side of the table, cuddling under an umbrella in the rain, any kind of PDA. I know I’m not the only one who loves going for brunch and holding hands in the park. Yes, it’s incredibly cheesy, but it’s the kinda stuff I live for.
  2. I need physical touch to survive. Physical touch is incredibly important for our health and well-being and when I’m in a relationship, I get a ton of it. Whenever I go through a breakup, that’s the thing I miss the most: my boyfriend stroking my back or holding hands. Hugs and handshakes are actually known to release the chemical “oxytocin”, the feel-good molecule. This is why being in a relationship feels like pure bliss. We’ve got oxytocin pumping through our veins. Ugh, I miss it.
  3. Being single is lonely AF. I do NOT do well on my own. I tend to spiral into a very dark depression when I don’t at least have a boy chasing me. It could be because my parents never paid me enough attention when I was a child, or maybe it’s because I’ve been abandoned so many times by my past boyfriends… Either way, I’d pretty much rather die than be without someone to love. What’s the point of life if you can’t share it with someone?
  4. I break down often and need the support. My life is kind of like a rollercoaster — no wait, it’s more like a 200 ft. drop. When I get down on myself, I really get down, and it’s important for me to have someone there to help me back up. Some people are able to handle difficult situations on their own, but not me. I’m a bit of a baby when it comes to dealing with hard times and I need someone to tell me that it’s “all gonna be alright”.
  5. I hate doing things on my own. I get weird when I have to eat, walk or do anything alone. I find myself getting bored, paranoid or insecure that I’m by myself. I know that as an adult, I should be okay with things like going to the movies solo, but I just can’t do it. When I’m in a relationship, I always have someone to do things with me, even if it’s something as simple as going to the corner store to get milk.
  6. I want to get married one day. Yes, I’m one of those girls who actually wants to get hitched.  I think I can safely assume that if I want to get married, then I’m also cut out for relationships. You can’t really say you’re a relationship girl without at least thinking about marriage every now and then — and I think about it pretty much non-stop these days.
  7. I make a really good girlfriend. When I’m in a relationship, I rule. I’m, like, the best girlfriend ever. I kid you not — my exes will attest to that. I put my all into relationships without getting too clingy. I make sure my boyfriend is happy but I also know when to focus on myself. It’s a balancing act and I’m pretty sure I’ve perfected it at this point.
  8. I have a high emotional IQ. Not everyone is able to relate to people in the way that I can. I live for those moments when I can really connect with someone on an emotional level. Fostering deep connections with others is kinda like my hidden talent. People have said they feel like they can tell me anything, including my past boyfriends. This is why I love being in relationships — they just come so naturally for me!
  9. I hate going out. I’m a quiet kinda girl which makes me perfect girlfriend material. Relationships are practically designed for introverts like me. When I stay in with my boyfriend, I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything, in fact — there is no other place I’d rather be. I used to do the whole clubbing thing, but now that I’m older, it’s just not my bag. I’d much rather spend a night cuddling on the couch, eating takeout, watching TV, and just chilling.
  10. The sex is more satisfying. Sex is way better in a long-term relationship. We know each other’s likes and dislikes and it just flows. I’m totally comfortable asking for things that I otherwise wouldn’t ever bring up with someone new and it feels good to know that someone loves my body regardless of what it looks like.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.