All The Guys I’ve Ever Known Have Turned Out To Be Super Lame — Ugh

In the beginning, things were great. I couldn’t believe I found my unicorn. He seemed practically perfect in every way, but as the relationship progressed, his true colors began to show. After a few months, I realized that it was all an act to get me to like him and that he was really no different from any other guy I’ve dated.

  1. He ultimately only wanted sex from me. Just like a lot of other guys I’ve come across, he only wanted to get laid. Even though he claimed to have been in love with me, I realized that after a few months, he would have been happy with just about anyone as long as they were having sex with him.
  2. He dropped me when things started to get serious. Every guy I’ve dated did this and he was no exception. The minute things got real, he bounced. He didn’t sign up for having to deal with problems in this relationship; he just wanted it to be a fun ride and have a good time. He wasn’t willing to stick around when times got tough and I can’t believe that I thought he would.
  3. He lied about stuff. It started out as little white lies, but then I found out that he met up with his ex and pretended that she was just an old friend. This really hurt because I was so sure he wasn’t the kind of guy who would lie to his girlfriend, but I guess people are never what they seem. All I wanted was an honest man, but I guess I was looking in the wrong place.
  4. He jumped into a relationship before he was ready. Most guys I know panic when they start dating a girl they kinda like and try to tie it down before she goes and sleeps with someone else. He was in no way ready for a relationship but he jumped into one anyway, not caring about what may happen down the road. The crap eventually hit the fan and he found himself in an existential crisis because he felt like he was “wasting his life” on a relationship. He should have actually made sure he wanted a relationship before he got into one because he only ended up hurting me in the end.
  5. He flirted with other girls in front of me. I feel like a lot of guys do this and I never thought he would… but he absolutely did. In the beginning, it was all about me, but after a few months, the real him started to emerge and I could finally see what a sleaze ball he really was. It was embarrassing and kinda devastating for me when he flirted with other girls. I really thought he was better than that.
  6. He made promises he couldn’t keep. He would paint these beautiful pictures with his words about all the amazing things we were going to accomplish together but then he never followed through. He really had me fooled in the beginning — moving in together, going on trips, getting a dog. It all sounded great on paper, but when it came time to act, he was gone without a trace.
  7. He was terrified of commitment. Seriously — what guy isn’t? He just wanted to be free, which is surprising considering he also really wanted to be in a relationship with me. He acted like he wanted to date me long-term but after a while, he started to resent me and treated me like I was ruining his life. Funny, when he was really the one who dragged me into this relationship in the first place.
  8. His eyes always wandered. Every time we were out, he would be looking around the room at all the other girls as if I wasn’t enough to look at. It didn’t bother me at first because I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but after awhile  I noticed that he couldn’t seem to take his eyes off of other women and that was really disappointing to me.
  9. He started avoiding me out of nowhere. At one point in our relationship, he turned. He didn’t want to hang out as much, always seemed to be busy, never answered his phone… This all happened in the blink of an eye. There was no real reason —  just a guy feeling smothered in a relationship that he wanted in the first place.
  10. He never talked about his emotions. He was a really great listener in the beginning and that’s what made me think that he was a good communicator. Then I realized that it was me who was always telling him my problems and never the other way around. He didn’t trust me with his feelings and I really wished he did. Oh well.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.