Flying Solo: Why You Should Be Proud of Being Single

Flying Solo: Why You Should Be Proud of Being Single ©iStock/Rohappy

Love is amazing. We know that. Who doesn’t love holding hands, having someone to talk to at all hours of the night and that cozy feeling that there’s someone out there who feels the same way about you? But we can’t knock flying solo. You should never be ashamed of being single. In fact, you should be totally proud.

  1. You’re comfortable being alone. You know that being in a relationship can be fun but you are cool with spending time with yourself. This is an amazing life skill since relying on others for happiness can be a slippery slope. At the end of the day, it’s just you, so it’s awesome that you enjoy being alone.
  2. You know who you are. You don’t need to be referred to as so-and-so’s girlfriend to know that you matter. Your identity is not based on whether a guy likes you or asks you out (but you know you can totally ask him out).
  3. You’re super focused and rocking your career. We know that we shouldn’t forget the other parts of our lives when we fall in love – our friends, jobs, family. But we’ve all been in that new love bubble and it’s pretty difficult to leave it. Being single means you have zero distractions and can go after what you want.
  4. You’re strong. If you’re the lone single girl in your group of friends, or even if you’re one of many choosing to be solo, you are known as the girl who is super strong and independent. It’s an awesome rep to have.
  5. You’re in charge of your dreams, goals and future. The tricky part of relationships? Sometimes you end up thinking about your boyfriend’s vision of the future and wonder if it fits your own. When you’re single, you have no one’s dreams to chase but the ones in your head. That is pure freedom.
  6. You have unique interests. As much as we pledge to keep our sense of self when we couple up, realistically we spend a lot of time with our significant other and not as much time on hobbies that we used to love. You may be super into barre classes or love trying out creative vegan recipes. Whatever you’re into, be proud of it, because it makes you a cool, fun person. And will make you an amazing first date when you do jump back into the world of dating.
  7. Your life is drama-free. Okay, so you may have some office drama or an argument with a friend, but for the most part your life is calm and peaceful when you’re single. That’s something to be proud of.
  8. You don’t desperately need a man. We all have that one friend who is perpetually in a relationship and claims she’s in love with this new guy after only one week. Don’t be that girl. Be glad that you can stand on your own.
  9. You’re willing to wait for someone who is right for you. Instead of jumping into a relationship with the first guy that asks you out, you are willing to keep your single status for as long as it takes to really connect with someone.
  10. Your taken friends are probably jealous of you. You can wear your PJs all day long on the weekend and stay up until 2 a.m. watching The Mindy Project. Your friends who are in relationships tell you they wish they had your life because you can do what you want all the time and don’t have to check in with anyone. Of course they wish they had your life. Because you’re awesome.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.