If Your Only Focus Is On Finding A Boyfriend, You’re Doing It Wrong

If Your Only Focus Is On Finding A Boyfriend, You’re Doing It Wrong ©iStock/Brickrena

Love is great, sure, but there’s way more to life than men, and finding a boyfriend shouldn’t ever be at the top of your list of priorities. Instead of simply looking for someone to date, you should be focused on finding these things:

  1. Anything that makes you happy.Becoming someone’s girlfriend won’t automatically make your life complete. Instead of trying to find any old boyfriend just to say you’re in a relationship, focus on finding someone or something that makes you happy and then take it from there.
  2. A job.A boyfriend can come along when you least expect it, but you need to actively try to land a job if you want to be successful. If you’re going to pour all of your energy into one thing, make it your career.
  3. Finding yourself.If you glance around a bar, you’ll find plenty of potential men to date. However, it’s a lot harder to find yourself, so you need to focus on figuring out what you want and need out of life if you want to find true happiness.
  4. Staying healthy.You need to do more than run on a treadmill in order to remain healthy. You should also check your breasts for lumps and schedule annual doctor’s visits to make sure your body is in good shape.
  5. Becoming a better person.There’s always room for improvement, which is why you should focus on becoming the best person you can be. A man won’t necessarily make you happy, but you can certainly make yourself happy.
  6. Your calling.Maybe your calling is to become a mother or maybe it’s to become a famous author. Whatever your passion is, you should follow it without hesitation or restraint.
  7. Having sex.You don’t actually need a boyfriend in order to get laid. As long as you practice safe sex, then there are plenty of benefits to orgasming as often as you can, even if it’s with complete strangers or a FWB.
  8. Making money.Money isn’t everything, but it can certainly make your life easier. If you find a job you love that gives you a decent sized paycheck, you won’t be as preoccupied with finding a boyfriend, because you’ll be happy without one.
  9. Loving your appearance.Even if you find a man who tells you how beautiful you are, you won’t believe it unless you learn to love yourself. That’s why you should be more concerned with accepting your flaws than finding a man who doesn’t think you have any.
  10. Having fun.If you’re too focused on turning a first date into a second date, you won’t enjoy the moment. Try to have fun flirting with hot men instead of worrying about what your relationship will eventually turn into.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.