I Forgive You for Breaking My Heart, But You’re Still A Loser

I Forgive You for Breaking My Heart, But You’re Still A Loser ©iStock/amazingmikael

Our once upon a time fairytale didn’t work out — it happens. I can forgive you for falling out of love with me. It’s not your fault; it’s life. You didn’t love me anymore and that’s okay, but it doesn’t excuse the way you treated me in the end.

  1. I deserved better from you. After all we’d been through, I deserved a little more respect and compassion when you ended it. We were friends first, remember? You didn’t even let me down like someone who used to be your friend. You threw me away as if we never loved each other — as if I was a three-month love trial and not a multiple year subscription. BS.
  2. You dragged things out for way too long. You should have just had the balls to let me go. You weren’t sure what you wanted, and like a fool I waited around for you to figure it out. Looking back I realize that deep down you always knew you didn’t really want me — you were just too afraid to let me go, and I paid the price of your cowardliness.
  3. The way you ended it was messed up. You finally made up your mind that you didn’t see a future, but gave me no explanation. We were just done, and you took the time we were in-between together and broken up to just move on. You used me until you had someone new and then you just threw me away. Screw you.
  4. You moved on fast as hell. So fast that it made me feel like our relationship meant nothing to you, like I meant nothing to you. We spent years together and you got over it in a matter of weeks. You spared no time to mourn what we had. In the blink of an eye it was over and done, and you never looked back.
  5. I wasted so much time on you. I spent years loving you, caring about your happiness and in the end, you didn’t care the same for me. I could have been out finding someone who would really love me or even just establishing a better relationship with myself. I thought you were forever. You told me you were forever, but in the end you were just a waste of time.
  6. Why would I want to be your friend? You thought we could just go back to being friends, but why would I want to be friends with someone who treated me like crap? You wanted everything to be water under the bridge, to sweep it away like nothing happened, but it did happen and I won’t pretend otherwise. I forgive you for breaking my heart, but screw you for the way you did it.
  7. I’m so much better off without you. Now I know what real love is. I know what it’s like to have someone who puts in just as much effort as I do, who loves me just as much as I love him. I never had that with you, but it was what I wanted. I had to go through the pain of losing you to realize what a loser you were, and now that you’re out of my life, I’m so much better off.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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