All My Friends Are Getting Married & All I Care About Is Landing My Dream Job

I’d like to get married someday, sure, but I have my whole life to settle down. I’m at the age now where it seems like all my friends are tying the knot, but I’m nowhere close to ready for that — my main priority is landing my dream job.

  1. I can be happy in my relationship without the title. As long as my boyfriend is my boyfriend, I have no reason to doubt his commitment to me. I know he loves me and I love him; what more do I need? Sure, being able to call my significant other “hubby” would be cute, but that doesn’t mean I should rush into things. All good things take time, after all.
  2. I’ve worked too hard to let marriage distract me from my goals. Now that I’m about to finish college, I have even more pressure on me to succeed. I’ve worked my butt off in school and I’m ready to finally do something I truly enjoy. If I were to get married right now, all that would be on my mind is wedding invitations, finding a venue and buying the perfect dress. I don’t have time for all that right now.
  3. Weddings are expensive. Budgets are big for me — I’m in my 20s and the bills stack up quick. When I get married, I want everything to be perfect… and when you’re as picky as me, perfect gets expensive. That’s why I’m going to wait until I have a salary that can handle all my wants and needs. Plus, it’ll allow me to enjoy my wedding more knowing that I’m not going to be eating ramen noodles for months to make up for it.
  4. If he’s “The One,” he’ll wait for me. In my opinion, people who rush into marriage are insecure and want the “husband and wife” titles because they think it somehow solidifies the relationship — but that’s not how marriage should be. I want to get married because I’m ready, not because I’m anxious my relationship will end if I don’t commit right this second.
  5. The world doesn’t stop for anyone. I’m about to be finished college, and it’s super important for me to get my foot in the door as soon as possible. Every year there are new graduates who will steal the few available jobs from me, so the sooner I go after my dream career, the easier it’ll be to lock it down.
  6. The older you get, the harder it becomes to break into any industry. If you’re 30 years old and have massive gaps in your resume, employers are going to question your potential. You may be the smartest person in the world, but if you don’t have experience to back that intelligence up, you’re just another paper in the stack.
  7. It gives me time to strengthen my relationship. Every anniversary my boyfriend and I celebrate makes me more and more excited to call him my husband one day. The anticipation is what keeps me going. I know that if I continue to work hard and go after my goals, everything will fall into place naturally.
  8. The right time will come. I’m a big believer in fate, especially when it comes to major milestones like getting married. If I feel too stressed to even clean my apartment, who’s to say I’ll be prepared to commit to someone for the rest of my life? Sure, I can definitely picture my boyfriend and I together that long, but I need to get my bearings in order before I think that seriously about our future together.
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