Is He Your Future Husband? You Need To Know His Answers To These Questions

While it’s never good to rush into a relationship, it’s definitely a smart idea to get a feel for the guy you’re dating. In order to cut to the chase, here are a few questions you’ll need to know the answers to — if not, you might end up realizing that while he’s a total sweetheart, he’s sadly not endgame material.

  1. Do you get along with your family? Some people do, and some people don’t. While you probably hope that his family is ideally more Brady Bunch and less Bluth, this question isn’t just a chance to figure out the level of drama you can expect. His relationship with his family can often indicate how he’ll react to your family and how he’d handle a family of his own.
  2. Do you like kids? There’s a difference between liking kids and having your own, but if your guy likes them, he’s probably more open to starting a family himself. If you have a lot of young nieces and nephews, this question will also let you know whether or not an invite to a fifth birthday party would stress him out or bring out his adorable side.
  3. What’s your dream career? Not only is this a fun question, but it outlines where he sees himself in five years. If 2016 has proven anything, it’s that the world can be incredibly unpredictable. If your guy has a mental map on where he sees things going, you can tell whether or not he’s motivated enough to get a promotion or if his goals lie within reaching the next mission on “Mass Effect.”
  4. What’s your most embarrassing moment? It sounds like you might be in the midst of playing a round of Girl Talk with him, but this question shows whether or not he feels comfortable opening up to you. It can also gauge his sense of humor and his ability to rebound. Everyone gets embarrassed on occasion. As long as you promise not to hold his answer against him, you’ll end up learning a lot.
  5. How would you handle a long-distance relationship? This is a good question if you’re both in your 20s. While relocation happens all the time, it seems to happen the most during and after college. For some, the LDR is the total kiss of death. For others, they don’t mind the brief space — as long as it’s not forever. You’ll learn how long he’d be willing to adapt and get a good idea as to whether or not applying for that job on the West Coast would be a true relationship-killer.
  6. What’s your favorite holiday? You want to make it special for him, right? By asking about holidays, you’ll figure out key clues, like whether or not Easter is a big deal to him, and if you’ll have to juggle the two big ones (Christmas and Thanksgiving) in between your two families next year if things continue to feel serious.
  7. What’s your love language? Okay, okay, so this one might be tough to get out of him — especially if he’s never heard of the love languages before. But the truth of the matter is, this little exercise really helps you understand and communicate better with your partner. It might seem dorky, but it’ll be truly eye-opening. If he at least flirts with the idea of researching it, he cares about how the two of you connect.
  8. What do you normally do to alleviate stress? It’s an honest question. And when you get the answer to it, you’ll know if it’s something you can handle. Does he need alone time?  Does he prefer having a guy’s night out? Does he hit up the Xbox for hours? Does he sip a worrisome amount of spirits? It’s important to know this now so you can prep for the future and not feel slighted or overly concerned.
  9. Do you see yourself getting married someday? Note the wordage — you’re not asking, “Do you see yourself getting married to me?” Some guys just aren’t into that much commitment, and that’s okay. It’s only not okay if you’re holding out hope that a ring will be in your future. With certain life decisions, you need to remember that while you’re fantastic, you’re not going to change his mind. If he hates the idea of marriage or children, he’s probably not going to wake up with a different outlook next month.
  10. How important is sex to you? Talk about a personal question — but really, if you’re having sex, you’re mature enough to ask about it. Every relationship goes through a dry spell. And even though you might think that you and your boyfriend will never fall victim to the dead bedroom, just wait until stress, health issues, financial issues, or an unpredictable circumstance takes over. People have different sex drives, so it’s important to know how vital sex is to him.
  11. What’s your opinion on watching sex online? While some people view it as a harmless release, others view it as cheating. It’s good to know where your guy stands (and have him know where you stand) before you two get yourselves in the midst of a fight about it. Watching it together might also be fun, but you’ll never know if you never ask.
  12. What chores do you actually like doing? Times have changed — women (thankfully) aren’t doing all the house chores anymore. Of course, if you’re dating a guy who never lifted a finger around the house while growing up, he might assume differently. By asking him what chores he enjoys, he’ll know he’s equally responsible for keeping the place clean (if you choose to cohabitate) without sounding like a big nag.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.