How To Genuinely Stop Caring What People Think

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It’s almost impossible to never think about how you’re coming across to others, and a lot of the time you should care. But at the same time, you don’t want to get caught up in what everyone else thinks about you. You might have to fake it a little at first, but your first step in not caring what people think is acting like you don’t care what they think.

  1. Stop putting yourself down. You’re probably thinking if there’s something that you don’t like about yourself, that other people must notice it too. But that’s rarely the case. You’re your own harshest critic, so if you let yourself off the hook a little bit, you’ll be surprised by how freeing it is.
  2. Stop judging others. Everyone is free to live their life how they see fit, and you have no right to judge people who are different from you. Being overly critical of everything is a sign you care too much how you’re coming across. So stop judging others so harshly, and you’ll stop inviting judgement in return.
  3. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone is on a different path and someone elses success really has nothing to do with your own. There’s enough room for everyone at the top, because “the top” can be defined in a million different ways. You just need to figure out what it means for you.
  4. Realize you can’t please everyone. You’re responsible for making yourself happy. No one else is going to do it for you, which is why you should make your own happiness your top priority. Compromises must be made sometimes, but sometimes you have to choose, and there’s nothing wrong with choosing yourself.
  5. People will have an opinion no matter what. Even if you do exactly what someone thinks you should one moment, there’s no guarantee they won’t change their minds the next. It’s impossible to keep up with other people’s opinions of you, so why bother worrying about it?
  6. Be proud of your quirks. There’s no such thing as universally normal. Everyone is a little weird in their own way, and that’s what makes them interesting. Don’t be ashamed of being different, because that’s what makes you who you are.
  7. Believe in yourself. The choices you make about who you want to be will never affect anyone else as much as they affect you. Work on trusting your own judgement, and you’ll never have any regrets.
  8. Know what you want. You’re the only one who can accomplish your goals, whatever they may be. If you know exactly what you want, what other people think won’t be able to distract you from that.
  9. Put yourself out there. The more you put yourself out there, even when you’re scared, the easier it will become. Get out of your comfort zone more often and you’ll see that what other people think isn’t that important as long as you’re comfortable with who you are
  10. Surround yourself with people who support you. Even if you’re generally a confident person, there will always be times when you could use a little outside reassurance. That’s why you need some people in your life who believe in you. They’ll remind you that you’re loved and you can get through anything.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.