Get Over Your Ex For Good, Because He’s Not Worth Any More Of Your Time

There’s always one ex-boyfriend that’s going to haunt us forever, whether it’s been two years since the nasty break-up or only two months. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been – if you’re still hung up on your romantic past, how are you ever going to face your future? Don’t worry, you can totally move on and never picture his cute face ever again. It’s worth doing – you’ll be so much better off.

  1. Stop the Facebook stalking. Forever. No, you can’t keep searching through his photos to catch a glimpse of his new girlfriend. You have to stop right now. No going back. Go one step further and delete him from all of your social media accounts. You’ll feel a total sense of freedom that you didn’t know was possible. Why do you need to know what he ate for lunch today, anyway? You really don’t need to know anything that’s going on with him anymore.
  2. Delete his number. All you’re going to use it for are those late night drunken texts that you really shouldn’t be sending. There’s absolutely no reason to keep your ex’s number in your iPhone once you’ve broken up. You’re just going to spend way too many hours staring at it, wondering if you should text or call him. The answer is always no.
  3. Break up with him… as friends. Raise your hand if you’ve convinced yourself it’s totally possible and even a good idea to stay friends with your ex. There’s no middle ground when it comes to this dilemma: we either want to stay friends or we never talk to our exes again. If you’re used to keeping the friendship going, you might want to ask that friend you have who always cuts ties 100 percent once she’s broken up with someone. She’ll tell you that you can never move on for real when you’re still invested in someone’s life.
  4. Make a list of 3 reasons you’re better off. Okay, so you miss him and you’re heartbroken and it’s taking every last ounce of your energy not to fall into a pint of Ben and Jerry’s. But there must be some reasons why your life is happier now that he’s out of your life. Maybe he hated to exercise and resented that you left the apartment every evening to go for a run. Or he was lazy and never wanted to try anything new. Write down 3 reasons and look at the list whenever you need a boost of courage.
  5. Take a dating time-out. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not easier to get over someone if you start going out with other people. You’re just going to feel even lonelier when you realize that this new guy can never be anything like your old boyfriend. And that’s going to make you even sadder. Instead, embrace the single life and enjoy it.
  6. Daydream. This is the most fun part of trying to get over a guy. If you want to binge some Lifetime movies and pretend you’re the main character in your own super cheesy love story, go ahead. Why not have some fun fantasizing about the next time you fall in love? This will help you get into the mindset of being ready to date again when you decide to.
  7. Consider throwing away any mementos. When Rory Gilmore wanted to throw out her Dean box (which included that box of cornstarch that she adorably shoplifted when he kissed her), Lorelai knew better and kept it at the top of the front hall closet. Go with Rory’s first instinct and get rid of any material stuff that is a painful reminder of your ex. You’re making your iPhone, Facebook and brain an ex-boyfriend free zone so you might as well add your apartment, too.
  8. Ask your friends what they really thought of him. This is opening up a can of words, and that’s exactly what you want to do. Your friends always have opinions when it comes to your love life, they just want to spare your feelings. Now you can find out the truth and they could have some smart insights that will make you feel better.
  9. Never, ever get back together. Listen to Taylor Swift. We’ve all thought that things would be easier the second time around, but the truth is that’s not possible. Your same issues will just return and ruin things all over again. It might even be worse because you’re expecting the relationship to grow and you’ll only be disappointed.
  10. Decide on the #1 trait that’s important to you. Once you’ve over your dating break and want to get into the groove again, it’s a good idea to settle on the characteristic that means the most to you. This will help you see that your ex wasn’t the best person ever. Maybe a sense of humor is super important to you and he didn’t exactly get your jokes, or you want someone more adventurous and he just wasn’t into that. Now you can look forward to the future and find someone who’s a more realistic match.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.