Your friends are your best allies when you’re on the prowl. You probably can’t even count the number of times you’ve talked to a guy because you had your friends around to back you up. You don’t have to be single to be a good wing woman, either – sometimes your attached friends are the ones that make the best sidekicks during a night out on the town. But there comes a time when it is your turn to be the Robin to your friend’s Batman, and there are a few ground rules that will make the night successful… for her.
Don’t overshadow her. She needs to be the one that stands out. If she’s dressed on the casual side, you should be too. You don’t want every guy staring at your cleavage while your friend tries to get his attention.
But don’t go out looking like a bum, either. If you look like you don’t give a crap, no guy is going to want to talk to you, even if it’s just to help his friend out. You have to seem approachable, as well, if you’re going to help her attract guys.
Know her type. If she loves tall guys with glasses, you should be on the lookout, too. Two sets of eyes are better than one.
Don’t get too drunk. You don’t want her to have to cut a conversation short because the bartender caught you puking in the bathroom and kicked you out.
Keep your beer goggles off. It’s just common sense to make sure one person in your group is beer goggle-free for the night. Or as Katy Perry says, you could go to bed with a 10, and wake up with a 2.
Know when to give her some space. If she’s clearly into a guy, wander away for a little while. Go check your makeup, sit at the bar, order more drinks – something to give them a little alone time. Then she’ll be able to decide if she likes him or not without you hovering.
… But don’t leave her alone for too long. You shouldn’t disappear for an hour or leave her alone at the bar unless you’re positive she’s safe. Make sure she’s going to make smart decisions, and then you can make your exit.
Keep his friends interested. Guys travel in packs just as often as girls do, so you have to make sure they aren’t going to drag him away before your friend has the chance to wow him with her amazing personality.
Make sure you two aren’t into the same types of guys. If you are both attracted to tall, dark Joe Manganiello types (and I mean, who isn’t?), it could lead to a little jealousy. If you think you won’t be able to let her have the spotlight, maybe you shouldn’t be a wing woman.
Keep her in the loop. If she’s kind of shy at first, try to direct the conversation towards things she can talk about, too. You don’t want her standing by in silence while you and the guy she was interested in discuss obscure sci-fi films.
Talk her up. Make her look good by mentioning how she volunteers at an animal shelter on the weekends. Help her make a connection with a guy by creating opportunities for them to find out how much they have in common.
Give her a pep talk. She might be feeling a little insecure if she’s just been through a break up or she hasn’t had much luck in the love department lately. Remind her how great she is, and give her the confidence she needs to keep putting herself out there.
Be willing to initiate contact with guys. It can be pretty nerve wracking to go up to a guy you are interested in, so help her out by taking care of the hard part.
Take one for the team. Cute guys have awkward, not cute friends all the time, and a wing woman’s number one function is to keep them occupied. That does NOT mean you have to do anything you aren’t comfortable with, and if she’s a good friend, she won’t ask you to.
Don’t give the guy a reason to like you instead. If you get too involved in their conversation, you could realize that he’s most likely your soul mate. Even if she’s not that interested in him, no girl wants to have her potential love interest snatched away by the one person who is supposed to have her back.
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