You Ghosted Me And Now Want Another Chance? GTFO, I’ve Moved On

It’s not okay to just disappear from my life without any kind of explanation, but do you know what’s even worse than that? Deciding to walk back into my life and expecting us to pick up from where we left off. It doesn’t work like that — I’m the one who gets to call the shots and I’ve moved on, so don’t think for a second that I’ll give you a second chance.

  1. You made me believe that I did something wrong. There were so many theories flooding my head about why you suddenly did a disappearing act. I must have said something that made you want to leave, right? Wrong. I’m not the problem, you are. Maybe you couldn’t decide what you wanted and you took the easy way out instead. Either way, you’re a coward.
  2. You don’t really want to be with me, so why couldn’t you say it? To put it simply, ghosting on someone is the cowardly way of saying “I’m not into you” without having to actually say it. It’s easy, it’s simple, and it does the trick. So why did you come back? That literally doesn’t make any sense. Whatever — it doesn’t matter because  I couldn’t be with a guy who can’t communicate like an adult.
  3. It’s not that hard to tell me that you’re not interested. If you weren’t looking for a relationship with me, you should have said it clearly. Sure, it would have upset me, but it’s better to hear the truth than be strung along for weeks. It’s not fair to get my hopes up when you have no intention of sticking around, and if you think I’ll forgive you for that then you have more issues than I thought.
  4. You don’t get to decide when we talk and when we don’t talk. You come across as the kind of guy who likes everything his own way, but I’m not someone who you can pick up and drop whenever you feel like it. I won’t be patiently waiting for you to text me back. Instead, I’ll just delete your number and find someone who knows how to be a decent human being. Trust me, you’re not worth getting upset over.
  5. It’s frustrating that I wasted so much time on you. Honestly, I thought you were a really good guy until you ghosted me and it changed everything. It’s a horrible feeling to be let down by someone who I really cared about, especially when I put so much time and effort into trying to get to know you better. You don’t really understand what that’s like. However, I guess I should thank you for leaving before I got too attached. At least now I see your true colors.
  6. You pretend everything is okay by “liking” my social media posts. Do you honestly think that liking my posts will make me forgive you? Find someone else because that kind of thing doesn’t work on me. If anything, it makes you look desperate for attention. Maybe you don’t care if the attention is good or bad as long as someone notices you. I know exactly what you’re doing and I couldn’t care less.
  7. Clearly, you’re not the right guy for me. The right guy wouldn’t treat me the way you did and he certainly wouldn’t leave without saying a word. Actions speak louder than words and your actions told me more than words ever could. I’m not going to waste any more time on a guy who isn’t supposed to be in my life. If you could kindly find the exit again and leave, that would be great.
  8. You didn’t apologize so I can’t forgive you. The main reason I can’t forgive you and move on is because you never said sorry in the first place. To be honest, it wouldn’t have made much of a difference but it’s still the decent thing to do. If you can’t see that you messed up then you really need to do some self-reflection on what kind of person you really are because you’re not the great guy I thought you were.
  9. You need to work on yourself before you think about dating someone. You have some issues that you need to work on and if you had been honest with me from the start, then maybe I would have been much more understanding. But you were a coward. I don’t owe you anything and it’s selfish of you to think that I should welcome you back into my life. I’m done.
  10. I know what I deserve and it’s not you. At the very least, I want to be with someone who can be honest and communicate with me. Unfortunately, you don’t fit that description so tell me, why would I settle for an immature guy who thinks it’s acceptable to disappear and then come back when it’s convenient? Instead of giving you a second chance, I’d rather focus on finding someone else.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.