Why The Girl Who Doesn’t Have Time For You Is Exactly The One You Should Date

You may be scared of independent women who know what they want and how to get it, but that’s actually the kind of girlfriend that you want. Here’s why the girl who doesn’t have time for you would make the best girlfriend ever:

  1. You need to chase her. You can’t be super lazy and expect the girl to do all the work. You need to do the chasing, and if you fall for a woman who’s super busy, she’s going to expect you to try a little harder than you usually do. It’s only when you put some effort into the chase that you’ll win this girl over, and she’ll be the best person you’ve ever dated.
  2. You need to prove how you feel. A successful woman is different from other people — she’s more confident and couldn’t give less of a crap if you think she cares too much about her career. She has more to focus on than just you, so while she’s dealing with work stuff, you need to prove that you really do care about her. If you don’t, you’re going to lose her forever.
  3. You want an interesting woman. You may think that you want someone who agrees with your every opinion and hangs on your every word, but eventually you’re going to get super bored. You’ll never get tired of a busy woman, though. She’ll always have something hilarious or fascinating to tell you and your relationship will be amazing.
  4. You want loyalty. A busy woman is super loyal. She takes her responsibility seriously and would never let her boss, clients or coworkers down. She’s also an awesome friend. That’s the kind of girlfriend you want, not someone who doesn’t value the connections they’ve made.
  5. You can use your brain. If the object of your affection doesn’t have time for you, that’s actually a good thing. It means you’ll have a chance to really think about whether this is a relationship worth pursuing and if you can truly commit yourself to her. Use your brain and you’ll save both of you time and heartache too.
  6. You want the real thing. That’s what a girl with zero time to date is: the real deal. She’s smart, she’s done with all the dating crap and she’s relationship-ready. You want the girl who at first glance doesn’t have a ton of room for romance in her life because if you win her over, you’re going to reap the rewards, and she will absolutely make time for you if you’re worthy.
  7. You want to earn a place in her world. You can’t expect to just walk into a busy woman’s life and immediately be a part of it. You have to earn that right, but if you treat her well and respect her work hours, you’re going to end up with the greatest girlfriend you ever could… and hopefully you’ll be the best boyfriend, too.
  8. You should focus on yourself. You can’t just enter a new relationship and think you don’t have to do any more work. You absolutely do, so keep becoming the person that you want to be and reaching for your own goals. That’s exactly what the busy woman that you want in your life is going to do.
  9. You’ll never feel stuck. You won’t dump this kind of woman because you feel super trapped in the relationship. You’re actually going to feel the exact opposite. So what are you waiting for? The choice is pretty clear — this is the kind of woman that you should take a chance on. You’ll never regret it.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.