The Girl Who’s Chill AF Will Be The Best Girlfriend You’ve Ever Had

The Girl Who’s Chill AF Will Be The Best Girlfriend You’ve Ever Had ©iStock/Izabela Habur

Strong, independent women know how to hustle and get stuff done, which makes us hot as hell — but at the end of the day, we just want to come home and relax. Not only does the ability to work hard and play hard make us well-rounded and boss as hell, but being chill AF also makes us amazing girlfriends.

  1. There’s no unnecessary drama. We don’t understand why so many girls love making everything a big deal — it’s obnoxious and exhausting. Guys who date these girls are idiots. We deal with stress and drama in the day-to-day world all the time and we definitely don’t want it in our personal lives. No thanks!
  2. We won’t freak out on you. We won’t make a scene over the small stuff. We know when something’s important and when it’s not, and we’re good at letting it go when it’s not a big deal. I think we’re much easier to date because we’re pragmatic and realistic, and we’d rather move on than fight about stuff.
  3. We’re flexible about plans. Have to change plans? Running late? There’s an unavoidable emergency? We’re not going to freak out on you about that stuff. Some girls really can’t handle it when a guy has to back out on them, because apparently they are the only people in the world that matter. We’ll forgive you — just don’t make it a regular thing.
  4. We’re down to go adventuring — or just hang. Chill doesn’t mean lazy or apathetic. We’re all about trying new things, going new places and having a great time. Still, us chill girls don’t have to be doing something every second of the day to feel important. We know when it’s time to relax and take some time for ourselves too. We’ll gladly go travel the world with you, and we’ll just as gladly stay in bed with you all day when we’re done.
  5. We’re understanding. But that doesn’t mean we’re doormats — it’s totally different. It’s one thing to be chill, quite another to let a dude run around doing whatever the hell he wants with no consideration for our feelings. If the situation is reasonable, though, so are we. Be good to us and we’ll be good to you. We’ll trust a guy unless he gives us a reason not to because we have pretty good instincts and we trust them. Don’t screw with us too hard.
  6. When we do get upset, you know we really mean business. So you’re the lucky man dating a girl who’s chill AF. Do know that when we’re mad, it’s for a damn good reason and you should listen up. We’re gonna be cool with whatever 99% of the time, but we’ll let you know when you cross a line. As long as you comprehend and fix it, we’re all good.
  7. We don’t get jealous. Look, a girl doesn’t become chill as hell by also being insecure as hell. We realize that there’s no point in freaking out all the time. If there’s no trust, there’s no relationship anyway. If we think we can’t trust you, we won’t date you. If we’re with you, then we know we have you. After all, you’d be a fool to stray when you’ve got a chill-ass girl holding it down for you. If you do mess up, bye Felicia. We’re not jealous, we’re just done.
  8. We encourage you to do your own thing. Chill, independent girls have our own lives — we want you to have yours too. Nothing’s more annoying than a clingy dude killing our vibe. We’re more than happy to let you go out with your guys so we can have a night of hang time with our girls. Hell, we’ll even take a solo movie night in with a bubble bath and a mani-pedi. We like our space. Most chill girls do.
  9. We’re also fun AF. You know what’s great about no drama? A lot more time for fun. There’s no room for fights and stupid petty crap in my life. We’re too busy living to worry about the petty crap. If you’re a drama-loving guy who brings that in, you’re not welcome. We’ll be off with someone new who appreciates and enjoys our penchant for a stress-free good time.
  10. We’re everything you never knew you needed. When we pick you, you lucky man, hold on tight. We’re the best women you will find anywhere on this planet. We combine passion and lust for life with understanding, practicality, and an easygoing attitude. We’re the most fun, vibrant, interesting and lovable people around. Chill girls rule.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at