To The Girl Who Won’t Stop Flirting With My Boyfriend

To The Girl Who Won’t Stop Flirting With My Boyfriend ©iStock/filadendron

My boyfriend isn’t my property — I realize that he doesn’t belong to me and that he’s responsible for his own actions, and I trust him completely. That doesn’t give you the right to treat him like he’s your boyfriend. He’s not, so knock it off.

  1. Show some respect. It doesn’t matter how much I like a guy. If I find out that he has a girlfriend, then I consider him off limits. I would never disrespect another woman by moving in on her boyfriend, so the fact that you’re comfortable flirting with someone who’s in a serious relationship baffles me.
  2. I’m not intimidated by you. Sure, you’re smart and pretty, but so am I. You’re not lowering my confidence or making me question my relationship. I know my boyfriend considers me to be the most beautiful woman in the world, and there’s not a chance that he’d leave me or cheat on me with you.
  3. You have great taste. Honestly, I can’t blame you for liking my boyfriend. He’s sexy, sweet, and silly. He’s the perfect combination, which is why I’m with him.
  4. Women are supposed to stick together. I don’t want to be the type of person who hates on other women or views them all as my competition. Even though you’ve been pissing me off, you’re not going to make me change my stance. I won’t let one rotten apple ruin the whole bunch.
  5. It’s a compliment. I know other women are attracted to my boyfriend. It doesn’t make me jealous. If anything, it makes me feel like I’ve picked the right person, because he’s someone that everyone wants.
  6. You’re never going to get him. You can daydream about him all you’d like, but you’ll only have him in your fantasies. In reality, he’s mine. I’m sorry sweetheart, but that’s never going to change.
  7. He’s clearly not interested. Don’t get me wrong. If he flirted back, then I wouldn’t be mad at you. I’d take my anger out on him, but that’s not the case. He hasn’t been returning your affection, so you should probably move on.
  8. He wouldn’t date someone like you. You clearly don’t respect me. You don’t respect my boyfriend either if you’re still flirting with him after he’s made it clear that he wants you to leave him alone. He wouldn’t date someone as stubborn and stuck-up as you.
  9. You wouldn’t like it. If someone else was flirting with your boyfriend, how would you like it? You’d probably throw a fit, so don’t judge me for asking you to leave him alone. I’m handling the situation with more dignity and grace than you would.
  10. I trust him. It doesn’t matter how short your skirts are or how flirty your texts are. I know my boyfriend would never betray me. You can keep trying to make me jealous, but it’s not working as well as you think it is.
  11. Back off. I’ve played nice up until this point, because I don’t see the point in resorting to bitchiness every time someone shows interest in my boyfriend, but it’s time for you to back off. I don’t want to say it twice. It’s time for you to say goodbye.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.