Why Girls Who Spend Most Of Their Lives Single Make The Best Girlfriends

For all you ladies out there who feel like you’re in some way lesser than because you’re always single, listen up! I am convinced that the girls who spend the majority of their lives single make the best girlfriends and here’s why.

  1. We get into relationships because we’re ready to be, not because it’s convenient. Unlike those girls who need to be in a relationship, always-single girls only embark on something as serious as a committed relationship when we’re ready and actually want it. We aren’t the type to just fall into relationships because we’re bored, so when we say yes to someone, it means we’re ready to be that near-perfect girlfriend.
  2. We’re self-sufficient so we don’t need a lot from our partners. We’ve spent the majority of our lives getting things done on our own. We lift our own bags, pay for our own dinners, and hook up our own internet. This doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate when our boyfriend helps us out, it just means we won’t resent him when he can’t or forgets to.
  3. We let our partners have their own lives outside of the relationship. We’re very much used to living our lives without depending on the comfort and security of a stable relationship, so you won’t usually find us guilting our boyfriends into hanging out with us. We believe with our whole hearts that they should be free to have lives outside of “us.” We understand that a certain amount of space is needed in order for a relationship to prosper and we’re very realistic about the amount of time we should be spending with our BFs.
  4. We’ve had a lot of time to figure ourselves out. When you’ve spent as much time alone as we have, there’s a certain level of understanding about our inner selves that’s achieved. We’ve had to face some pretty difficult things alone and are that much stronger because of it. We have this outlook that we can handle anything, even the problems that come up in relationships. It’s really no big deal to us.
  5. We have an irresistible innocent vibe. Since we’ve spent most of our time single, we haven’t had many relationships and so when we’re in one, we get crazy romantic. We think the best of our partners from the beginning, which some people might think is naive and dangerous. For us, love will always be an innocent and magical thing and that’s super cute!
  6. We never take our partners for granted. Since we aren’t often attached to someone, we take special care to absorb every moment with our partners and appreciate everything they do for us when we are actually with someone. The relationship will always feel special to us and we’re more likely to put in the effort to make it last once the novelty has worn off.
  7. We know exactly what we want in a relationship. We’ve had SO much time to contemplate what our ideal relationships would look like and who our ideal partners would be, so if we choose someone, there’s a 90% chance they’re the right one. We’re usually pretty picky, hence being single all the time, so whatever guys we pick must be hella special.
  8. We know how to have fun. As seasoned single girls, we’ll never forget how to party. So many relationship people turn into grandma’s about six months into dating someone, but not us. We keep the balance because binging “This is Us” on a Friday night isn’t the kinda night we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. The relationship will never get stale with an experienced single girl, not to worry.
  9. If our partners need space or the relationship has to end, we don’t get weird about it. We aren’t the type who would get crazy after a breakup and bash in the door of our ex-boyfriends’ apartments demanding they take us back. When it’s over, we’re actually more or less cool about it. I mean, we’re not THAT cool about it but we’re not gonna go rogue or anything. Also, if our boyfriends want to go on a break, it’s fine. We’re not gonna like it very much but it’s not gonna completely shake us—we’ll be more or less OK.
  10. Love is important to us. I’m not saying that girls who go in and out of relationships like a P!nk song don’t care about love because they absolutely do—they just don’t care in the same way forever-single girls do. For us, love is EVERYTHING, which is why we don’t mess around with it. We don’t just shack up with any guys who give us a wink because we respect love TOO much. We’d rather be alone than be stuck in mediocre relationships where we just feel kinda meh towards the other person. If it’s not total groundbreaking, earth quaking, leg shaking love, it’s not worth our time.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.