I Give 100% In Every Relationship & Any Guy I Date Needs To Do The Same

When I’m in a relationship, I’m in it 150 percent. I love being in love and when I am, much of my life revolves around the guy I’m with. I wouldn’t have it any other way, really. However, in order for me to be able to express the love I have for someone fully, they need to be equally as passionate as I am or things will never work.

  1. Love is the reason behind everything I do. There’s a reason why every single song on the radio is at least kinda about love — it’s because love is the pinnacle. It’s the reason behind everything we do even if we don’t realize it in the moment. Every horrible thing that has ever happened to us only happened so we can learn to feel love again. It’s what all humans crave and it’s my biggest goal in life to find it. I need to be with someone who has that same goal.
  2. I don’t half-ass anything, including my relationships. I’m an all or nothing kinda girl. I strive for the best in every area of my life, including my love life. I’m not going to settle for a guy who likes me a lot — I want a guy who loves me in the biggest way. I guess I’m really shooting for the moon here, but I honestly believe that it’s possible for me. That’s why I go as crazy as I do over love.
  3. I’m an idealist when it comes to relationships. I don’t see relationships as a constant compromise between two people or something you have to “work at” to keep alive. I believe that love should just happen naturally and it should be the most wonderful experience in the world. All of those scenarios I read about in fairy tales are totally possible, minus the medieval castle. I have the utmost belief in my ability to love and all I want is my romantic dreams to come true.
  4. It’s easy for me to feel abandoned, so I need constant reassurance. A guy who understands how important love is won’t be shy to show it. We all need those nudges every now and then, but I need them, like, 24/7. I can get insecure if I don’t see that my partner is as excited to be with me as I am to be with him. Every little hug, kiss, and compliment mean so much to me. That’s why my ideal guy is someone who loves to love me and wants me to know it.
  5. I would literally do ANYTHING for the person I love. You know that Meat Loaf song “I’d Do Anything For Love”? That’s the way I see things when I’m in a relationship. The one difference is there are no limits on what I’d do in the name of it. I can safely say that if I love someone enough, there’s nothing I won’t do for him. I can only hope the guy I’m with feels the same.
  6. I get needy when I don’t receive the same amount of love I give right back and I hate that. I turn into a very needy person when I don’t get the love I require and I really don’t like that version of myself. We all know that when a relationship gets unbalanced, things can get weird. I tend to get clingy and obsessive over my partner if I feel like they’re not giving me the attention that I deserve. It’s not a good look and I know it.
  7. I love all that cheesy, romantic stuff. Kissing in the rain, chocolates on Valentine’s Day, slow dancing in the living room — it all sounds good to me! I go all out to show my partner that I love him, including these cheesy AF gestures and activities. My eyes go wide for this stuff and I really appreciate it when my partner sees the value in getting a little cheesy sometimes. After all, that’s what love’s all about.
  8. For me, love is forever. If someone’s going to be with me, I would hope that “forever” is an option. If it doesn’t work out, that’s fine, but I have expectations when it comes to relationships and I hope whoever I’m with realizes how serious I am about the love we share. It could last forever because that’s the nature of love. It’s crazy like that, and whoever I’m with should understand and appreciate that.
  9. We’re young and in love — let’s enjoy it while we can. When we’re in our 20s, love is meant to be fun and free and limitless. Save the practicalities for when we’re over 30. We have no responsibilities and nowhere to be besides with each other. I want someone who can really enjoy that and go all out while we’re still young.
  10. I don’t want to get dumped because I’m too intense. My intensity in relationships can scare guys at first and they tend to think that I want to marry them within the week and turn them into my house husband — this couldn’t be further from the truth. I just want to love them with my whole heart, but most guys see that as me being crazy and suffocating and I always end up getting dumped over it. It takes a special kinda guy to see that I’m just a lovable girl who needs a lovable guy to match.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.