Why Giving Up On Love Should Never Be An Option

Why Giving Up On Love Should Never Be An Option ©iStock/CoffeeandMilk

When you’re so sick of dating, it’s easy to become cynical and totally give up on ever meeting someone. But don’t get too cynical… Giving up on love should never be an option, no matter how dire you think things are:

  1. You’re younger than you think. Forget ticking biological clocks. It’s not like you get to a certain age and the universe decides you’re never allowed to find love, so stop thinking it’ll never happen for you and keep trying.
  2. You deserve it. Everyone deserves love, and that means you, too. There’s literally no reason to give up.
  3. You’re the one who will make it happen. Sure, there’s a certain amount of luck that goes into when you meet the person who will be it for you, but you’re also the one that has to put in the time and effort. You can’t snap your fingers and hope a boyfriend will materialize. So if you give up, no one’s going to do the work for you.
  4. Doom and gloom is not a good look. When you decide to give up on dating, you give off this totally negative energy that is basically black. No one is going to want to hang out with you, let alone date you, and you don’t even realize how much you’re ruining things for yourself.
  5. You’re not a spinster. You have BFFs and interests and an awesome career and a wicked sense of humor. You’re not an old lady living in a tiny house with a million cats everywhere, so don’t act like it.
  6. Dating sucks for everyone. Of course you’re over the ghosting and the texting and all that. That’s because everyone is, men and women alike. You’re not special, you’re just saying what everyone else is thinking and feeling. You can own your frustration but that doesn’t mean you have to give up completely.
  7. This isn’t your forever reality. The nights when you come home after meeting your friends for drinks and wish someone was waiting for you, the times when you just can’t even with online dating, the moments that it all seems hopeless — these are just the way it’s going for you right now. It’s not going to last for the rest of your life. So don’t act like this is your forever reality.
  8. Don’t set yourself up to fail. If you stop dating now, you’re basically resigning yourself to the single life. That’s okay if you don’t want a relationship, but if you do, then that’s just stupid. Why set yourself up to fail? If you would just stop whining and worrying so much, you might realize that, yeah, it sucks right now, but love is out there for you if you just hang in there.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.