Goodbye Dating — I’m Done With You

Goodbye Dating — I’m Done With You

In the beginning, my abstinence from dating wasn’t intentional — it just happened. Then I realized how much better off I was staying away from the dating pool. Here’s why I made a conscious choice to stay away from dating altogether:

  1. I don’t like it. Let’s be honest: dating is pretty much the worst. It’s awkward, unnatural, and weird. The whole concept is pretty strange — like a job interview, but for love. I’m not a fan in the least. It makes me feel strange and uncomfortable, and I have a difficult time acting like myself. I don’t want to have to impress anyone.
  2. I’m no good at it. I’ve never been much of a salesman, and dating is no exception to the rule. I find the idea of having to convince some guy of how great I am to be silly and antiquated. If he can’t see that for himself, there’s no point. On the flip side, I never know if a guy is genuine or just selling himself.
  3. No one wants to date me. Perhaps that’s not entirely true, but certainly no one is trying! I can’t read minds, but I can definitely tell you that any time I show interest in a guy, he doesn’t do a damn thing about it. It’s disheartening and depressing. Why would I want to keep going for something when I get no reciprocation?
  4. No one seems to date anymore anyway. I don’t know when it stopped being a thing, but it definitely happened. I hardly know any guys who take girls on real dates anymore. Everyone just “hangs out” and then that either slowly fizzles out or slides into relationship territory. Call me old-fashioned, but I don’t want to date unless I’m actually DATING.
  5. Romance is dead. Seriously, someone please prove to me otherwise. If not, I’m not dating. It’s as simple as that. I want a man who recognizes that I’m special and behaves accordingly. I’m tired of all the mixed messages and the apathy and the refusal to show emotion. If a man’s not willing to be romantic, I’m not willing to date him.
  6. I don’t trust men. I’ve seen and experienced too much BS from men. I hope that swearing off dating and focusing on my male friendships instead helps renew my faith in guys. At this point, it’s almost impossible for a guy to win with me anyway. He’s guilty until proven innocent, no matter how hard I try to feel differently.
  7. I have lots of other hobbies. Frankly, there are about a million things I’d rather do than go on a date. I’m always learning and trying new activities, and I find that way more fun. Dating feels like a chore in comparison to learning to rock climb or teaching myself a new language. I’d rather be on my couch reading a book with my cat than out with a strange guy.
  8. It’s a waste of my valuable time. I have goals to accomplish, and none of them have anything to do with finding a man. I’ve sworn off dating because I have many other aspirations like developing my career and figuring out how to live the lifestyle I want. I don’t have random free evenings to spend with complete strangers, most of whom I’ll never see again.
  9. I don’t care enough. I simply don’t enjoy dating enough to pursue it. It feels like a lot of work for very questionable rewards. I’m not interested enough in finding a partner to spend so much energy on it. Maybe someday I will be, but right now it’s not a priority.
  10. I relish the single life. Why date when I’m perfectly happy with the way my life is now? I don’t need to mess with a good thing. Being single is pretty great. I love my freedom to control my own schedule and environment. I take care of everything I need with very little fuss. I have no desire to needlessly complicate my existence.
  11. I don’t enjoy the numbers game. People tell me it just takes a lot of bad dates to find the right person. Well pardon me if I think that sounds just awful. I’d rather sit out, thanks. Maybe it’s unrealistic to believe that I can find love in a different way, but I’m willing to risk trying.
  12. I’m easily bored. I find regular social events fairly unappealing, so all the weird “mating rituals” we go through to find a solid partner are downright dreadful to me. It doesn’t take much for a man to lose my attention. I’m looking for something special, and I can tell pretty fast when a guy ain’t it. I don’t want to date because I find the whole process tiresome.
  13. I don’t find most men all that impressive. I’m jaded — sue me. I meet a lot of people on a daily basis, and I click with very few of them. I’m surrounded by guys who seem to think they’re hot stuff, and I’m over all of it. I’m not dating again until I meet a genuine and interesting man worth my attention.
  14. I’d rather be with my friends. I have priorities, and friends always trump men. I’ve mostly dated guys who made me wish that I was spending time with friends instead anyway. I can definitely say that my friends always stick around whereas men come and go. Why would I ever date randoms when I could be spending quality time with my pals?
  15. I’ve built a life that I love, relationship or no relationship. Throughout the years I’ve developed an adult life that makes me very happy. With or without a man, I’m very content and proud of what I’ve become. I don’t need a partner to validate my worth. I don’t date anymore because it simply isn’t important enough to disrupt what I have going. My life is meaningful regardless!
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She hopes that they resonate with you or at the very least make you chuckle a bit. She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and The Indie Chicks.