A Great Guy Will Do These Things Without You Having To Ask

There’s a difference between good boyfriends and great ones, and what sets the two apart often comes down to the smallest details. Want to know if you’re dating one of the extraordinary ones? If he does these 8 things without you having to ask, you’ve definitely lucked out:

  1. Love you unconditionally. You should never have to ask a guy just to love you — when you meet the right one, it’ll come naturally. You’ll know from his words and his actions how much he truly cares. His love shouldn’t be conditional or based on a set of guidelines for you to follow. If he’s really a great guy, he’ll love you without asking for anything in return.
  2. Say he’s sorry. A great guy knows how to apologize when he’s wrong. A man who truly loves you will hurt when he hurts you. No relationship is perfect and you’re both going to make mistakes, but you know a man’s a keeper when he’s not afraid to say, “I’m sorry” and truly mean it.
  3. Forgive you. You deserve a man who loves you through thick and thin. Of course when you do something wrong (intentional or not) you should apologize, but you shouldn’t have to beg for his forgiveness. A good man recognizes that everyone makes mistakes, even you, and will know the best course of action is to forgive you so that your relationship can continue to progress.
  4. Truly miss you. You’re a great girl, but for some reason, not just anybody can see that. You need a great guy to recognize how truly wonderful you are. A good man will love you when you’re there and miss you terribly when you’re away. Sure, you need to be okay spending time apart, but your presence is so comforting that not having it is always noticed.
  5. Give you an orgasm. The last thing you need is another selfish lover in your bed. A truly great guy will know that your orgasm is just as important as his own. When a man loves you, he actually wants to please you. There’s absolutely no reason that only one of you should leave fully satisfied. Finally, you can stop faking your orgasm, because if you’re with a great guy, he won’t stop working until he gets you there.
  6. Always be there for you. Bad guys don’t know how to (or just never intend to) keep the promises they make. It takes a great guy to truly be dependable. You need a guy that you can actually count on, a guy you can trust. You deserve someone who will be there when he says he’ll be there. You don’t need another man to bring you disappointment. A great guy will be there no matter what.
  7. Be your friend. A great guy knows that being a good boyfriend is more than just being a great lover — he also needs to be your friend. He needs to be a person you can confide in, someone you can tell anything and everything to. Great guys make great boyfriends because they give you the perfect combination of romance and friendship.
  8. Support you no matter what. A relationship should be an equal partnership with support going both ways. Your dreams are important and a great guy will be able to see that. Sometimes you’ll fall and sometimes you’ll fail, but if he’s really a great guy (and the right guy), he’ll be by your side no matter what.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.