It’s Great That You Show Me You Love Me, But I Still Need To Hear It Too

It’s Great That You Show Me You Love Me, But I Still Need To Hear It Too ©iStock/fotografixx

Actions speak louder than words, yes, but that doesn’t mean words are useless. It’s important that you show me you love me and care about our relationship by the things you do, but that’s not enough for me — I need you to verbalize how you feel too. Here’s why:

  1. I want to hear what’s on your mind. Even if it’s bad. Regardless of what you have to say, I’m open to hearing it. I deserve to know the truth, especially if I’m investing time and energy with you. Whatever it is, I’m sure we can work it out — but only if you communicate the issue with me in the first place.
  2. I’d rather know than wonder. Constantly wondering what you’re thinking can get exhausting. I’d rather just know what’s on your mind rather than trying to figure it out for myself, because that can go many ways. Save my sanity and just be real with me. If my outfit looks bomb, point it out. If my lipstick is on fleek, let a girl know. If my ass looks good, just tell me.
  3. I want you to be comfortable enough to speak up. It should be clear that I welcome anything you have to say and encourage you to do so. I don’t want you to hold back or wonder if I’ll like what’s coming out of your mouth or how I’ll handle it, etc. Whether it’s good or bad, you shouldn’t even hesitate to say it. Especially if it’s something good.
  4. I want to understand your actions better. By verbally telling me what you think and what your intentions are for us, I’ll understand it so much better when put into action. You could say one thing and do another, or do one thing but completely imply something else. I just want to stay on the same page. The more communication the better.
  5. Once we stop communication, the relationship is over. I want us to be special. I think communication is key to any successful relationship and by keeping it in check, we’ll be a rock star couple that others wish they were. I want to always improve and make room for changes and we would just never get that done without talking about it.
  6. It makes me feel special to hear you say it. Simply put, it makes me feel pretty good to hear you say it. Telling me you love me, that you’re here for me, that you wouldn’t know what you’d do without me, etc. It goes a long way and it makes me feel like the most important girl in the world.
  7. It makes me want to do the same for you. Hearing your romantic expressions in the form of words inspires me to do that same. For someone who likes to verbally remind people how special they are to me, it’s nice to have that reciprocated. I’ll always tell you how much you mean to me.
  8. Sometimes, I just need to be reassured. I get jealous sometimes, I can’t help it. I worry that you’re going to find someone better than me or that someone else is going to steal you away. I know better than that really, but sometimes it’s just nice to hear how much you care. It’s so simple yet accomplishes a lot. Because even if I know you care, hearing it and seeing your eyes light up makes me wonder why I even questioned it to begin with.
  9. Sometimes kind words and encouragement are all I need. Even though actions say a lot, I find that sometimes just having someone to listen and make me feel better is sometimes all I need. Not everything requires action. Words can make a person’s mood drastically change and as long as you’re there with open ears, I’ll be happy.
  10. Sometimes I just want to hear your voice. Whatever you want to say to me, I want to hear it. Your voice makes me feel better sometimes, regardless of what comes out of it. It makes me feel loved, peaceful and at home. Your actions mean a lot, but don’t forget that I need to hear it too.
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