A Guy Can’t Complete You — It’s Up To You To Complete Yourself

You’ve found the one person who makes you happier than you’ve ever been and you don’t know how you have ever lived without him. It’s like a fairytale; the too good to be true type of situation you always heard about but never thought would actually happen to you. Wait — back up real quick. Are you depending on him for your ALL of your happiness? Here’s why you may need to reevaluate:

  1. There’s a major difference between the words “with” and “because.” Being happy WITH someone makes you two a great couple – a power couple! You love to do things together, but you still have your own life and ways of living. You do things that you’ve always loved to do because that’s what makes you grow. Being happy BECAUSE of someone drains you because you depend on him for every piece of your happiness and you start to lose yourself along the way. His life is your life, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.
  2. He may bring out the best in you, but he doesn’t bring out every part of you. There is so much more to you than your “other half” — you’re complete on your own (or at least you should be before you get into a relationship). Just because your guy brings out your good side and makes you a better person doesn’t mean that he brings out every single amazing aspect of you. He doesn’t have that type of control — nobody does except you! Being with someone who makes you happy is great, but make sure you know that you have more to offer. Make sure you know just how damn well good you are with or without him.
  3. He could leave tomorrow. Nobody knows what the future holds but you have to be prepared for it. Your partner could leave tomorrow for all you know, and you need to be able to gain your happiness back on your own. Relationships end daily, as sucky as that may be. If he gets up and goes, you don’t want him to be stuffing your happiness in his suitcase and taking it out the door with him and life goes on.
  4. Independence is sexy; dependence isn’t. Who doesn’t love an independent woman? It’s one of the sexiest traits you can have, and the best part is, it’s yours if you want it. Becoming too dependent on someone can cause resentment because you won’t even know who you are anymore. You’re better than that. You need to be able to stand on your own two feet. You know what they say — keep your standards high and your heels higher.
  5. He’s most likely super insecure. A guy who is allowing you to completely rely on him for your happiness isn’t secure with himself. When someone is being relied on, they can see it; they love it and they feed off it. He’s so insecure that he can’t tell you to quit! He wants you to continue to need him so that he feels better about himself.
  6. He probably makes YOU insecure. Not only is he insecure, but now you’re following in his footsteps. You think that you need him to make you happy, and your levels of insecurity will skyrocket because of it. This is a red flag — a big one! It’s not healthy and that’s not how happiness works.
  7. You may be giving him power over you. It’s so easy to get caught up in loving someone so much you think that you need him. Once you put him on this pedestal, he has all the power in the relationship — and anyone who has power feels like they have control. No one wants to end up being controlled or manipulated. That’s just not fun. Be the strong woman that you are and don’t give away your power.
  8. You’re in control of making the most of your life. Having your own inspirations and motivations is what makes you YOU. You’ll be happier in the long run if you continue to do things you love and pursue the things that interest you. If you depend on someone else to make you happy, these things will start to slowly fall short of your everyday routine.
  9. Your own smile is badass. Every woman out there is a badass in some way. Relying on someone else to make you happy will take that from you. Any woman who can’t find her own smile has lost her badass nature. Having a smile that shines brighter than the damn sun shows. No one wants a fake smile – and if it’s dependent on someone else, it’s probably as fake as a spray tan.
  10. His mood is changing your mood. It’s common to take someone’s energy with you just from being around them. In any relationship, you should be able to separate your mood from your partner’s. If you had a great day and he had a crappy day, they shouldn’t collide. You shouldn’t take his their bad energy with you – that’s where things get messed up. It’s all about balance and give and take.