Is The Guy You’re Dating In Another Relationship? 11 Signs He’s Already Taken

You’ve met an amazing guy and your relationship is going well, but you can’t help but get the feeling that you’re not the only woman in his life. Your guy is usually right: the guy’s totally lying when he says he only has eyes for you. Here are 11 signs that he’s already in a relationship and has a girlfriend waiting for him at home.

  1. He never invites you to his place. You’d swear the guy was homeless because he never invites you to his place for dinner or even Netflix and chill. He always wants to see your apartment and hang out there. In fact, you don’t even know where he lives because he keeps you so far away from there it’s not even funny.
  2. He doesn’t take you to your favorite places. Even though you’ve hinted about the clubs and restaurants that you’d love to check out, he never takes you to those. He always wants to take you further away. The reason? He doesn’t want people he knows to bump into you guys.
  3. He’s off the radar at certain times. Does it feel like sometimes you just can’t get hold of your guy, like on weekend nights or in the evenings? If his phone’s completely off during these times, that’s another warning sign that he’s busy with someone else and doesn’t want to be disturbed.
  4. He never spends the night. While he might love visiting you at your home, he never spends the night. He always has some excuse ready when you invite him to sleep over, like that he has a really early start in the morning. If you’re crazy about someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible. You don’t dash off like Cinderella just before midnight.
  5. He switches his phone off when you’re around. This sign can be misinterpreted as him being so into you that he doesn’t want to be disturbed, but it could also point to him not wanting his girlfriend to call or text while he’s with you or risk you accidentally seeing a message from her on his phone when he leaves it on the table.
  6. He’s chained to his desk. Is he always cutting dates short because he has to head back to the office? Is he always talking about how much work he has to do? Look, no one can be that busy. If you feel like it’s a lame excuse for him to have to rush off to work, then he’s either a workaholic or he’s got a girlfriend so he can’t give you all of his time.
  7. He’s got new items in his home. If the guy’s quite ballsy, he might invite you to his home (maybe he doesn’t have a live-in girlfriend), but keep your eyes peeled for any new items that have cropped up. He might have a new mirror in the bedroom or something cute in the living room that’s not his usual style. These could be signs that he’s got someone else in his life and she likes to leave her mark on his territory.
  8. He’s different with you in public. Some guys just don’t like PDA, but a guy who has a girlfriend might be completely different with you in public as compared to how he is in private. If he walks a meter away from you and won’t even touch your hand, that’s a bad sign he’s afraid someone’s going to see you together.
  9. He’s cagey about future plans. A guy who’s reluctant to make plans for the future might just not be interested in you, but he might also be doing this because he’s already got a future written out with his girlfriend.
  10. He acts weird when he receives a text. You’re out with him when his phone starts beeping and he suddenly needs to use the restroom. You’re watching a movie when his phone beeps and he makes an excuse that he wants more popcorn – and conveniently takes his phone with him. If it sometimes feels like he can’t leave his phone and whoever’s trying to get his attention, it could be that he’s got a girlfriend who’s trying to get in touch.
  11. You’re feeling paranoid. If you can’t shake the feeling that your guy’s got someone already, believe what it’s trying to tell you because it’s probably not paranoia. You can talk yourself down if you’re being paranoid and reason with that feeling, but your gut will not stop hounding you. If you’re not someone with trust issues, even more reason to listen to that voice. Don’t let this asshole get the best of you!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.