Everyone has their flaws, but not all of them are simply “quirky.” Some people have personality characteristics that might seem a little strange, but could actually be signs of something much more serious. If the guy you’re seeing displays these symptoms, he’s not just weird — he could be flat-out toxic:
- He takes things to the extreme. Does he tend to to take things a bit too far? If he has an all-or-nothing personality, he could get a little cuckoo on you later on. Everything about him, from his reactions to his interests, seems to be controlled with an on-off switch with no middle ground. If he gets obsessed easily, he’s eventually going to make you the object of that obsession.
- He has an addictive personality. If he gets easily hooked on things like drugs, sex, or even food, keep your guard up. If he has an addiction and isn’t working towards recovery, he’s eventually going to drag you into his problems and leave you destroyed. He’ll always be at the mercy of his vice, and he’ll do anything to get it — even if it means screwing you over in the process.
- He doesn’t listen to you. Do his eyes glaze over when you start to speak? He’s not romantically gazing into your eyes; he just doesn’t care about what you have to say. He’s a narcissist and will only ever care about himself.
- He only talks about himself. Not only does he not listen to you, but everything always seems to come back to him. You might find that hours will go by without him asking you a single question. Why would he when he’s the only person he cares about?
- He doesn’t have friends. When a guy doesn’t even have one friend he can lean on, he’s got some serious issues. No one’s perfect, but most of us have at least one person aside from our significant other that we can count on. If he doesn’t, you should ask yourself why literally no one wants to associate with this guy.
- You get the feeling he’s being dishonest. When you get that sketchy feeling that he’s lying to you, guess what? He’s probably lying to you. Be especially concerned if he seems to be fibbing about seemingly trivial things. They may not seem like a big deal, but if that’s the case, you have to ask yourself why he’s being dishonest about them in the first place.
- His apartment is way too clean. You can tell a lot about a person by the state of their apartment. You know that movie “American Psycho”? Patrick Bateman’s apartment wasn’t clean — It was FREAKISHLY clean, and he was nuts. Being a neat freak isn’t an issue, but when his place is so spotless you’re not entirely sure if anyone actually lives there, it’s definitely a yellow flag at the least.
- His sexual interests are straight-up weird. Most of us are into something that others might consider weird, but it doesn’t take a sexpert to know that there’s a difference between being into BDSM and getting turned on by the idea of beating your partner to a bloody pulp. Having some “abnormal” sexual interests isn’t necessarily a sign that he’s nuts, but if you feel like his fetish might put you or someone else in danger, run.
- He doesn’t easily show affection. He doesn’t like kissing you, holding your hand, or pretty much anything that involves touching you. Some people are just not into physical contact, but if he makes you feel like your skin might burn him, he might have issues that are too big for you to fix.
- He randomly shuts you out for no reason. You were having a great time together, when suddenly — nothing. You can’t reach him through his phone or his social media. WTF did he go? You might have been ghosted, but if he randomly pops up again and acts like nothing happened, it’s probably not healthy for you to be with him.
- He doesn’t show sympathy or empathy. Does he show even a tiny ounce of emotion when you’re watching the ending of “Wall-E”? Even a teeny, tiny smile? This could be a huge sign that he’s emotionally closed off. If he doesn’t seem to care when you’re upset, or he never seems to care about things that would make most people happy or sad, something about him just isn’t right.
