My Guy Friend Begged Me To Date Him & Then Changed His Mind

I’d been friends with him for years when he decided we should date. I’d considered it once before but never acted upon it since I cared more about our friendship, but I went along with it — biggest mistake ever. After dating me for several months, he decided he didn’t like me romantically after all, and in fact wished we’d never taken our friendship to the next level… despite the fact that he’s the one who pushed for it. WTF? Here’s every thought I had when I heard those stupid words come out of his mouth.

  1. Are you breaking up with me? “We should’ve stayed friends”? What does that even mean? Like, are we over? Telling me something we should’ve done doesn’t change what’s actually happening. I should’ve studied for that test. I should’ve set my alarm instead of relying on the sun to naturally wake me up. There are a lot of things I should’ve done — I never thought staying friends with him was going to be one of them.
  2. Well… this is awkward. WTF? He couldn’t have told me this earlier, like before we hooked up? Or maybe before he begged me to give “more than friends” a try? Honestly, there were more than a few opportunities for him to have said, “Let’s call this off.” But, no. And now here were are, months after we turned our friendship into a relationship, immersed in a sea of awkward.
  3. I saw your penis for nothing. I man, at least the sex was AMAZING, so that was great while it lasted. Unfortunately, now I know that he’s good at sex, which sucks because I won’t be able to forget it. Every time I look at him, I’m going to be thinking, “I saw your penis and it was truly a delight.” What a waste of a penis sighting.
  4. Do people not think things through? I wouldn’t classify myself as “a logical thinker.” To be honest, I usually do things without thinking them all the way through, but I definitely thought long and hard before agreeing to go out with him. I didn’t want to ruin our surprisingly steady friendship, so I considered all the pros and cons before I made my final decision — unlike him, obviously. Maybe I’m a logical thinker after all.
  5. You begged me for this. I mean, like really, really begged. He courted me for weeks (flowers, letters, other basic stuff). “I finally realized that we’re meant to be.” “I can’t stop thinking about you.” “You’re the only girl I want to be with.” BS! How did he go from being in love with me to not wanting to date me anymore in a matter of months? No, that’s not a rhetorical question.
  6. Really? I thought things were going great. Well… damn. I thought we were basically Jay Z and Beyonce, but I guess not. To be honest, I liked going from friends to boyfriend and girlfriend. I always had a crush on you so it wasn’t like I ever just saw you as “a friend.” You were always the guy I was secretly in love with, I just never told anyone. I thought we were in a good place, but apparently I was living in a dream world.
  7. Damn, what did I do? Oh right, nothing! I didn’t cheat, murder his family, forget to shave or do anything remotely crazy. I was an absolute gem throughout our entire three-month relationship. Okay, maybe we got into a few little arguments, but nothing that should’ve surprised him. He’d already known me for a couple years before this even went down, and I didn’t change. Did he?
  8. How long have you been feeling this way? Is this a new thought or has he been thinking this for a while? The relationship just barely started and he’s already ready to call it off? Yeah, he’s been sitting on this. I bet he knew after week one that it wasn’t going to work, but instead of being upfront, he lied to spare himself (or me) the embarrassment. Well, thanks for giving it the old college try, kid.
  9. We will never be friends. Sorry, but we will never be friends again. To be honest, we probably won’t ever speak again. I’m about to go home, take a bath, delete his number and throw away every single possession that reminds me of him. Maybe “we should’ve stayed friends” but what’s done is done and there’s no going back.
  10. Hey, at least you’re honest. Ya know what? I’m grateful for his honesty. Do I wish he would’ve NEVER turned the key on this relationship ignition? Yes, but whatever. At least he’s telling me now, rather than stringing me along for another month or so. My heart is slightly shattered but I’ll get over it. However, I’d like him out of my sight, like, forever. Be gone.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.