Why The Guy Who Rejected You Is Doing You A Favor

It hurts like hell when you’re interested in a guy who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, but it could really be a blessing in disguise. Here’s why you should thank your lucky stars instead of crying over him:

  1. You don’t really know what he’d be like as a boyfriend. Just because he seems like a cool, charming guy and has maybe been a great friend, that doesn’t mean that he would make a great boyfriend. Chances are, he could have totally sucked as a romantic partner.
  2. He caught your ‘no BS’ vibes. If the guy seems to be carrying a bit of drama on him, you should be glad that he doesn’t want to date you. You really don’t need to be romantically involved with someone who will bring you down, add stress to your life or expect you to solve his problems. In fact, drama magnets know who will be keen to pick up all their sh*t, they just get a vibe. If this guy has rejected you, it could be because he gets the sense that you’re not a pushover. Be glad about that!
  3. If he was so great, he’d be with you. It’s normal to feel that the guy you’re crushing hard on is perfect, but just think: if he was as suitable for you as you think he is, he would be with you. But you shouldn’t feel bad because this has nothing to do with you. Why feel crap over things you can’t control? Besides, it just means you’re not wasting your time on a guy who’s so wrong for you.
  4. He only wanted one thing. If the guy seemed really interested in you and you had great chemistry but then he disappeared, you might be left thinking you did something to put him off. Chances are that if he was so interested in the physical aspect and not really so much on getting to know your personality, the guy was just after sex. When he saw you wanted a deeper connection, he backed off. It’s better he did, instead of fooling you into thinking he wanted something real.
  5. You’re too strong for him. Sadly, some men are still intimidated by strong women and he could be one of them. He saw that you have your act together. You’re not afraid to speak your mind and this intimidated him. But if you sense this is the case, it’s really his loss and your gain because you’ve saved yourself from having to deal with an loser who likes to control women or wants to feel that he is stronger than them.
  6. He saved you from stress you don’t need. Life works in mysterious ways and sometimes you only discover that someone wasn’t right for you months or even years later. Perhaps you’ll run into the guy and see what an arrogant loser he is, or you’ll have a mutual friend with him who dated him and got badly played by him before finding out he gave her herpes. You’ll be so glad you dodged that bullet.
  7. He kept your heart available for someone who really deserves it. By not getting the guy you really wanted, you might worry you’ll never find happiness in love. But how can one guy’s rejection determine your destiny? That’s crazy. Some day when you feel the spark with someone else and he feels it too, you’ll look back on this loser who rejected you and feel so glad that he’s not taking up your time and preventing you from being with the guy who’s really your perfect match.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.