A Guy Reveals 10 Flirting Moves That Drive Men Crazy

For the record, I’d never tell women how to flirt—you should always do whatever you’re comfortable with when it comes to guys. That being said, if you’re at all interested in a little help getting your flirt on, here are a few things most of us really go crazy for.

  1. Playful touch OK, so this seems a little obvious, but it’s important enough to mention. Touching is a good thing, and if you don’t give a guy any kind of playful tap, he may not get the hint that you’re into him. You want to keep things subtle and not be too forceful or he may think you’re trying to hurt him. Also, if he doesn’t seem to respond to a playful touch, keep doing it until he gets the message (unless he’s visibly uncomfortable of course, which means he’s probably not into you).
  2. Making intense eye contact I’ve noticed that some women try the whole looking away coyly thing, but that’s more playing hard to get than flirting. If you want to flirt with a guy and let him know that you like him for sure, maintaining eye contact is key. Use your eyes to make him feel like he’s the only guy in the room. I mean, you’d want him to do the same to you, right?
  3. Initiating conversation If you like a guy, the best thing you can do to flirt is to be the one who starts the conversation. I still don’t get why women are so reluctant to make the first move. Simply making the effort to start talking to a guy is a good way to flirt with him and not nearly as complicated as you think. Not every guy will like having a woman make the first move, but a lot of the nice ones will be cool with it.
  4. Flashing us a simple and obvious smile A smile can go a long way, even if you have to overdo it just a little to make it obvious that you’re trying to flirt with him. It’s really quite simple: guys are more attracted to women who smile. It makes you seem nice and upbeat and like a person worth getting to know. You don’t have to be overly sexy or suggestive with your smile, but once you’ve mastered eye contact with him, just tilt your head a little and flash a nice smile. If you do it right, any guy will be eating out of your hand.
  5. Giving a friendly hug This is another great way you can break the touch barrier. If you want to send a guy a subtle message that you like him, just try saying “hello” with a hug. You don’t have to squeeze too tight; that’s more of something that an aunt would do. When you want to hug a guy in a flirtatious way, hold him close and then let the hug linger for a few seconds. The guy will enjoy the hug and hopefully get the message that you want to be more than friends.
  6. Telling a joke I heard a rumor once that women like a sense of humor, and the same can be said of men. If you tell a good joke, a guy will want to stick around and keep talking to you. If you’re not naturally funny, that’s fine—just have a joke prepared ahead of time. It doesn’t have to be anything too elaborate, just make sure it’s unique, funny, and maybe a little dirty. Guys love a woman who’s not afraid to tell a dirty joke.
  7. Tripping and falling into him Yes, this is a little manipulative and perhaps a little obvious, but it’s also a way to break the touch barrier with a guy you like. If you can pull off the fake trip and fool the guy into thinking he caught you, he’ll feel like your knight in shining armor, which will make him feel good about himself and like you at the same time.
  8. Asking about his tattoos Guys who have tattoos love talking about them and explaining their meaning. If you ask about them, it’ll put the guy in a good mood. Even if you’re not really curious about tattoos, this is a good way to flirt and show your interest in a guy.
  9. Grabbing his butt OK, so this can be borderline inappropriate, especially if the guy you’re trying to flirt with is a complete stranger. But if you’re a little familiar with him, you can probably get away with it. You don’t want to be too aggressive, but something playful can definitely be a great way to flirt. He may be caught by surprise, but a lot of guys will like a girl who’s confident and playful enough to give their backside a little squeeze.
  10. Whispering Obviously this will be a little tough to do at a loud dance club, but it’s a good technique to remember when you’re somewhere a little quieter. If you can whisper with just the right voice, it’ll come off as sexy, which a guy will absolutely love. Also, whispering something to us, no matter what it is, makes it seem like a secret, which makes us feel special—and isn’t that part of the goal of flirting?
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.