A Guy Reveals How To Get Him To See You As A Potential Girlfriend Instead Of Just A Friend

Do you ever think about how thin the line is between love and friendship? What exactly is it that makes some people friends and some people romantic partners? The good news is that it’s often something that it’s in your control. If there’s a guy in your life that you want to consider you as a potential girlfriend and not just a friend, there are some things you can do. While I can’t guarantee that it’ll work every time, here are some ways to make a guy start thinking about you in a whole new light.

  1. Show off your intelligence. I know it seems like guys tend to go for the less intelligent girls, but most guys prefer to be with smart women. To be considered girlfriend material, a guy wants to know that they aren’t going to get tired of talking to you. You need to show the guy that you’re smart, inquisitive, and interesting to talk to and he should show you the same in return.
  2. Be a good listener. Of course, you also want your friends to be good listeners, but if you want to make a guy think you’d be a good girlfriend, you should be an active listener and put him at ease when he’s talking to you. When you’re a good listener and a guy feels comfortable opening up to you, he’ll notice. When you can get a guy to open up like that, it’ll get a guy thinking that you could be more than a friend.
  3. Be a free thinker. Sure, guys want to know that they have things in common with their girlfriends, but it’s also boring when two people agree on everything. Just like guys want to be with a smart woman, they want to be with free thinkers who will share different opinions and perspectives. If you show that you think outside the box and offer different perspectives, he’ll always be interested in talking to you and seeing you as more than a friend.
  4. Challenge him. With friends, everything always tends to be light and easy. However, you can stand out to a guy by challenging him and pushing him to be his best self. When you do that, you make it clear to a guy that you care about him as more than a friend. Deep down, most guys want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
  5. Share your future plans. For a guy to be in a committed relationship, he needs to be able to see a future with someone. If you want to stand out as someone who’s more than a friend, tell him about your plans for the future. Show him that you know what you want out of life. That kind of conviction is definitely attractive for men. Also, if he likes what you say and finds it appealing, he might start to think about a future with you as his girlfriend.
  6. Show you care. Obviously, your friends will care about you, but it’s also obvious to a guy when someone shows that they care about him more than a friend. When you show a guy that you care, he’ll start to see something more than just friendship. That will at least put you on his radar and get him thinking about you as a potential girlfriend.
  7. Leave a little mystery. Admittedly, there’s a little bit of game-playing here. You want to create just a little bit of distance and mystery between you. That doesn’t mean to disappear from his radar altogether. Just don’t share every detail of your life or everything about yourself. Create a little bit of mystery about yourself to pique his interest and make him want to get to know you better and know you better than just a friend.
  8. Ask for his help. The thing about guys is that they love feeling needed and useful. If you want to get a guy’s attention and make him see you as more than a friend, ask him for a favor. You don’t want to ask too much of him, but a small favor to help feed his ego by making him feel useful. This will also give you a chance to spend some one-on-one time together and get him to see you in a different light.
  9. Plant the idea in his head. At times, getting a guy to see you as a potential girlfriend requires a direct approach. Just as his friend, let him know some of the qualities you think he should look for in a girlfriend. Spoiler alert, they’ll all be qualities that you possess. There are more obvious ways to go about this. But you want to be as subtle as possible when putting the idea in his head that you’d be a great girlfriend.
  10. Dress up a little. To see you as more than a friend, a guy must be physically attracted to you. Sorry, but this is a prerequisite. If you don’t think he’s noticed you in that way before, you might need to dress up a little to catch his eye. That doesn’t mean you have to go overboard. Just find a way to appeal more to his shallow side and then you can dazzle him with your personality to make him see you as a potential girlfriend.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.