A Guy Reveals How To Make Sure Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Stray

For whatever reason, men seem to have more of a tendency than women to stray from a relationship and commit acts of infidelity. I’m not sure why that’s the case, it just is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. While you shouldn’t blame yourself if your boyfriend cheats on you, there are some things you can do to decrease the likelihood that it happens. Here are some simple things you can do.

  1. Don’t take him for granted. Needless to say, this should always be one of your relationship goals, just as it should be one of his to make sure you feel appreciated. When a guy feels neglected, he’ll be more likely to stray because he’ll think you don’t care about him. That means he’s likely not to care about hurting you by stepping out on your relationship. In his head, it’s a simple math equation really.
  2. Stay in touch. Staying in touch when you and your partner aren’t physically near each other can be vital to neither of you straying. You need to talk regularly and continue to make your feelings for one another clear. Like I said above, guys don’t like to feel neglected or worry that you don’t care about them. Even if he doesn’t call or text you first, feel free to contact him first. If you don’t stay in touch or give him reassurance in the relationship, he’ll be more likely to go elsehwere for attention and affection.
  3. Let him be himself. On a list of things that guys hate, feeling like their partner is trying to change them is toward the top of the list. They also don’t like being controlled or criticized. Some gentle hinting is fine, but at the end of the day, you have to let him live his life and be who he is. When he feels like you don’t like him as-is, he’ll start looking around for someone who will. Honestly, if you feel compelled to change a guy too much, he’s probably not right for you anyway.
  4. Take some time apart. Guys in particular, hate feeling like they’re being smothered by a relationship. It can make them want to cheat just to get some fresh air. You don’t have to spend every second with your partner. It’s okay to have different interests and different friends. If he feels like he needs some space outside the relationship, he could end up meeting someone new and cheat on you.
  5. Keep things fun. When a relationship stops being fun is when you need to start worrying about your boyfriend straying. Nobody wants to stick around a relationship that’s filled with stress and anxiety. There will be rough patches, of course, but they need to be balanced with fun and enjoyable moments. In fairness, it’s up to both people to make an effort to find quality time to spend together. When that stops happening, men are usually the first to start looking for a way to escape the relationship one way or another.
  6. Boost his ego. Admittedly, it shouldn’t be your job to supply him with self-esteem, but it kind of is. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways that you can inflate his ego and make him feel special. The point is that a guy will always want to be around someone who makes him feel better about himself. If you can do that, he’ll have no reason to stray. I mean, you want your boyfriend to be happy, right? If you can accomplish that, you shouldn’t have to worry about him cheating on you.
  7. Initiate sex sometimes. Yes, straying does occasionally have to do with a couple having a satisfying sex life. One way to ensure this is for you ladies to initiate sex sometimes. Trust me when I tell you that most guys find it crazy hot when women initiate sex. As guys, it makes us feel wanted both physically and emotionally. That’s a good thing because we don’t have to doubt your feelings for us and have a reason to stray. I know not all women like doing it, but it makes us happy when you do.
  8. Be open-minded in bed. While we’re on the topic of sex, staying open-minded in the bedroom can also help squash any thought a man has of straying. I’m not saying you have to go along with everything your partner wants. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. However, it’s important to stay open-minded and try new things sometimes. If there’s a disconnect between what you and your partner want in bed, it can lead to problems. It might sound selfish and childish, but if a guy doesn’t get what he wants, he’ll be more likely to stray and find someone who will give him what he wants.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.
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