A Guy Reveals Why Women Making The First Move Is Super Hot

While traditionally, making the first move has always been a guys’ thing, it’s 2018 and women are feeling more comfortable speaking up when they see something they like. Here’s why we guys love it so much when you do.

  1. It’s flattering. Just like you ladies enjoy receiving positive attention, we like it as well. We also try to look our best when we leave the house in hopes of drawing attention from members of the opposite sex and it’s nice to know that our efforts paid off. Please come up to us and let us know that you like our shirt and that we look handsome. It’s flattering, and we like that just as much as you. If nothing else, you’ll learn to appreciate how difficult it is for men to come up with suitable icebreakers when they walk to a woman for the first time.
  2. We can’t always work up the nerve. Whether you realize it or not, you can be intimidating, especially for those of us who are shy. We may really like you, but it can take guts to ask a girl out, strike up a conversation out of nothing, lean in for a kiss, or make a move for something more. If you think there’s a mutual attraction and the timing is right, by all means, make the first move instead of waiting for us to build up our courage.
  3. Some of us aren’t risk takers. To be fair, some men have no problem saying anything to any woman at any moment. For the rest of us, we may not feel confident courting a girl unless we know for sure she’ll be onboard. We understand that there’s no guarantee a girl will go for us, and sometimes the fear of rejection is just too powerful. Of course, you ladies know for sure whether you like us or not, so if you do, by all means, make the first move.
  4. It’s fun being the mouse. Pursuing women can sometimes feel like a game of cat and mouse, and for whatever reason, men are always the cat. Why can’t we switch things up a bit and have women play the role of cat and men the mouse? That way we can enjoy stringing you along and being the object of your desire, which I can only assume is a blast.
  5. Sometimes we need validation too. Whether you like the guy or not, don’t tell me that you don’t get some kind of satisfaction out of being the target of someone’s romantic pursuits. Admit that it feels good to be wanted. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t have that song “I Want You to Want Me.” The point is that men enjoy that feeling just as much as women. We need to feel like we’re a desirable romantic partner, and sometimes a woman hitting on us or initiating some kind of physical contact is what we need to feel that validation.
  6. It’s more relaxing. If you haven’t caught on, some men tend to be a nervous wreck when it comes to making the first move on a woman we like. We don’t know if you’re going to reject us or send us to the friend zone or just laugh in our faces. But if it’s the woman making the first move, we’ll get a chance to relax and stop worrying about whether you ladies like us back. It’s a serious relief.
  7. We appreciate gender quality too. I don’t want to speak for all men, but quite a lot of us are fully down with feminism and gender equality. Remember, that’s a two-way street. We definitely want you to have equal pay for equal work, but we also want you to be willing and able to initiate things romantically sometimes too. Thinking it’s always up to the man to make the first move is such antiquated thinking, so if you want to make a statement about gender equality, when you like a guy, speak up.
  8. Strong, independent women are the best. If you’re a woman who’s unafraid to make the first move on a guy, it says a lot about you. It says that you’re brave, confident, and willing to go after what you want, and that’s exactly the kind of woman guys want to be with—the good guys anyway.
  9. It’s sexy as hell! From our years of experience, we know how difficult it can be to get things started, so we can’t help but think of it as super hot when you turn the tables on us and make the first move. Trust me when I tell you that a woman making the first move on a guy is not likely to get rejected, mainly because it’s overwhelmingly sexy.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.