A Guy Shares 8 Things You Can Do To Earn His Trust

If trust isn’t the most important thing in a relationship, it’s certainly close to the top of the list. It’s not always easy to achieve it, but once it’s there, it’s the glue that holds couples together and without it, you’re sure to fall apart. If you want to earn a guy’s trust, there are a few things you can do to let him know he can rely on you 100%. Here are some ideas to start with.

  1. Create a judgment-free zone. It’s important not to be judgmental with guys. Most of us tend to be defensive if we feel like our character is under attack. Your guy will easily sense any kind of judgment on your part and start to shut you off if he does. He’ll stop opening up or sharing things because he feels like he can’t trust you. Deep down, he wants to be able to be himself around you, and if you allow that to happen, he’ll be more likely to trust you.
  2. Practice extreme honesty. It’s important for you to be honest with him from the very start of a relationship. You would want the same thing, right? Even little white lies that you think he wants to hear can come back to haunt you. If he finds out that you lied to him about something, he might start questioning everything you’ve ever said. He’ll wonder whether or not he can trust you, making it that much more difficult to earn his trust.
  3. Show confidence in him. We all make mistakes. How you ladies respond to our mistakes can play a big role in whether or not we learn to trust you. It’s important to show faith and confidence in him even after he messes up. It’ll make him feel better knowing that you still believe in him. It means a lot because it shows that you trust him, and he’ll be more likely to reciprocate.
  4. Let him talk. Spoiler alert: it’s not easy to get guys to open up and be vulnerable emotionally. But when he starts to open up, all you have to do is listen. As I mentioned earlier, you can’t be judgmental about stuff. Just let him waffle on and be an active listener. Try to ask questions without being too intrusive because it’ll show that you care. Just the fact that you’re absorbing what he has to say and seem to care will make it easier for him to trust you and open up even more.
  5. Admit your mistakes. When you mess up, you have to admit it, pride be damned. You can actually earn a guy’s trust when you fess up to your mistakes. It shows that you aren’t trying to hide things from us, which means that we can trust you. If you expect this from us, you have to be prepared to offer the same in return.
  6. Be consistent. It’s always good to be your true self around a guy and not pretend to be someone you’re not. The trick is being consistent in your behavior, even when you’re around other people as well. If you start acting differently around your friends, around his friends, or around anyone else, it raises red flags. Erratic and inconsistent behavior will make a guy start to wonder what version of you is the real you. If he questions that, he won’t know if he can trust you. In other words, you can earn a guy’s trust just by being yourself.
  7. Just be there. How can he learn to trust you if you’re not around? Part of being in a trusting relationship is just being there when the other person needs you. When you’re around for important moments or in his time of need, it’s easier for him to count on you. Wouldn’t you ladies want the same thing? If you don’t show up when he needs you, he’ll start questioning whether you’re right for him or if he’ll be able to trust you.
  8. Share a secret. Letting him in on the skeletons in your closet might be the easiest way to earn his trust. Just keep in mind that trust is a two-way street. When you open up with a guy and share a secret, it shows that you trust him. Most of the time, that won’t go unnoticed. If he knows that you trust him, it’ll be easier for him to reciprocate. It won’t seem like he’s making such a big leap of faith.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.