To The Guy Who Told Me I Wasn’t Pretty Enough To Date

To The Guy Who Told Me I Wasn’t Pretty Enough To Date ©iStock/wundervisuals

One of the main things that makes me walk away from a guy without a second thought is when their main interest in women is about physical beauty. While I understand that there needs to be sexual attraction, that attraction can come from personality, intelligence, or even wit — but you didn’t get that. You actually had the nerve to tell me that I’m not pretty enough to be girlfriend material, but you couldn’t be more wrong. This is for you, dirtbag.

  1. First off, no. Just no. I’m not playing this game — and it most likely IS a game to you. If you’re trying to hurt me, trying to show that you can get others to jump through hoops for you or just trying to get the “hottest chick,” I can guarantee you it’s NOT going to happen.
  2. Is this your way of getting validation? Do you have to reject girls in a cruel way just to make yourself feel better about the fact that you’re a piss-poor human being? Is this the way you “level your playing field”? I legitimately want to know why you’d ever say something like that to someone.
  3. Do you understand the way that attraction works? While it’s true that physical attraction is an issue, the fact is that looks fade and what remains is personality. When you’re older, not even money and a great plastic surgeon will fix you. Considering the way you act, I can promise you that you’re going to be a very lonely, bitter man in the future. After all, the only women you’ll attract with that attitude are the ones that are going to use you for whatever you have.
  4. You’re really not that hot. Even if you were Brad Pitt, your personality stinks more than Michael Jackson’s petting zoo — and that will make any girl who would be interested in you run away.
  5. Don’t you dare say that to me again. You’re not entitled to talk to anyone like that, much less me. Understood? Just because you don’t find me attractive doesn’t mean that I’m not, idiot.
  6. Do you even understand how rude and disrespectful you are? Well, I’m assuming that even if you did understand how awful your behavior is, you wouldn’t care. The only person people like yourself ever care about is themselves.
  7. Don’t be surprised if word gets out about what you said. Girls talk. And when they find out that you’re a douche, they walk.
  8. Guys like you are what’s wrong with the dating scene, and why so many women have eating disorders. I’m dead serious. I’m not saying that you have to sleep with me or some other girl who’s overweight, but I am saying that the way you talk to girls hurts them. I’m saying that if you’ve ever had a female friend with an eating disorder, insecurity, or depression, you probably contributed to it.
  9. If you had to reject someone, could you at least have some class about it? Oh wait. No, I forgot. You don’t know how.
  10. I wonder how your mother would react if she heard you say or do this kind of stuff. She’d be so proud of her son, right? If I had a son, I’d be ashamed that he thought it was appropriate to speak to women like that.
  11. The fact that you told me I’m not pretty enough to commit to shows how weak and childish you are. I’m assuming that there’s an insecurity you have that would push you to say I’m not “pretty enough” to date you. I’m also pretty damned sure that you have your priorities mixed up. If you aren’t even man enough to be polite to someone and feel the need to cut others down just to flaunt your ego, you really are a pathetic excuse for a player.
  12. What I would have been fine with is a polite rejection, but this is what will get you into a fight. Go ahead, keep saying BS like this. I guarantee you that someone who doesn’t have as even a keel as I do will end up knocking you out or putting you on blast.
  13. You don’t deserve me. If anything, you deserve a girl who will give you a taste of your own medicine. You need to be taken down a notch…or ten.
  14. My personality is more beautiful than yours will ever be. And that’s why I deserve someone who is far better than you.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.