If you feel like an option instead of a priority in the eyes of the guy you’re dating, it’s clear that he’s not the great catch you thought he was. In fact, you shouldn’t even be wasting another second with him. Here’s what you need to remember:
- He won’t become Mr. Right. If he treats you like he can take you or leave you, he’s indifferent, not in love. That also means he’s not Mr. Right and won’t ever become him. Take a deep breath and move on.
- He doesn’t care about your needs. You might demand that he makes plans to see you or not flirt with other women but he gets annoyed or tells you that you’re crazy. WTF? Those are basic relationship needs! If he can’t do boyfriend basics, he’s clearly not the guy you should be chasing.
- You aren’t second-best. Coming in second in a pie-eating contest or the company baseball day is fine, but second-best is not an option in romantic relationships. You want the guy you’re with to see you as his number one and the only woman he wants to be with. If you feel like you’re not in first place with him, you should pull yourself out of the race.
- Insecurities are an expensive purchase—don’t buy them. Stick with a guy who doesn’t make you a priority and soon it’ll start to hurt you. You might feel you’re not good enough for his love or that you’re not trying hard enough to make him happy. Stop that crap! The truth is that you’re feeling down about yourself because of him, not because of you.
- He conveniently has romantic amnesia. If he can easily forget you when you’re not around, why should you feel so special when you’re spending time with him? Even if he knows when to throw on the charm, the fact is that he conveniently “forgets” all about you when something else comes up. Why would you want a guy like that? He should be able to see what he’s got in you. If he can’t, then he doesn’t deserve you.
- If he can’t step up, he has to step away. Don’t make things complicated by going along with his mixed messages ’cause they’ll only lead you to a dead-end. See things for what they are: if he’s not stepping up his efforts to make you his, then he’s not worthy of your time. He’s got to earn your love and respect.
- You’re not disposable. Maybe he’s just with you because he’s hoping to get sex, the comfort of a relationship, or someone to keep him company when he’s traveling and doesn’t have his GF around. What a jerk. You’re not someone to be used and thrown out. If the relationship is so one-sided, there actually isn’t a relationship.
- If he’s bringing you down, he doesn’t deserve to see your heights. A relationship should uplift you and make you feel like your best self. This guy’s not doing that. He’s actually making you feel like crap and that’s not what you need. Why let him enjoy your amazing life if he’s not positively contributing to it?
- You should walk away before he pushes you away. A guy who takes you for granted will walk away from you sooner or later. Before that happens, be the first one to walk away. This isn’t about winning but about showing him that a woman of quality isn’t going to wait around for a jerk. Show him what he’s missing.
- He’s toxic AF. He might seem like a great guy sometimes, but honestly if there’s no consistency in his actions and words, then he’s playing around with your feelings. The guy’s poisonous. Stop letting him bring toxic vibes into your life. No one’s worth sacrificing your well-being for. Ever.
- He’s not going through a phase. If he was amazing and made you feel like a million bucks when you first met, you might wonder why he stopped making an effort since then. Don’t fool yourself into thinking he’s just going through a phase. This is the real him! The amazing guy act was just that: a role he was playing to get you where he wanted you, but now his cover’s slipping. Get out instead of waiting for him to change back to who he was because you’ll be waiting forever.
- He’s nothing special. So the guy thinks he can just treat you in any way he wants and you’ll be there? He needs to catch a serious wakeup call! If he can’t see that you’re not easily replaceable because you’re amazing, gorgeous, and make his life better, he’s the biggest idiot. Go out there and date someone smarter.
- He’s actually the replaceable one. He makes you feel like you’re not valuable, but guess what? He’s the one who’s worthless. Don’t take on his issues. Kick the guy out of your life and surround yourself with people who actually give a damn. You’ll realize that you shouldn’t have wasted one day with such a loser.
