A Guy Used A Cheesy Pickup Line On Me & It Actually Worked

These days, it seems like the possibility of a guy actually hitting on me in person is pretty slim. No one seems interested in making a move face to face when they can just jump on Tinder and reduce the potential embarrassment of being rejected. So when a guy actually musters up the courage to talk to me in person, I’m instantly more interested. Even if the line was “Hey, I forgot my phone number. Can I get yours?” at least he was making an effort. That’s more than we can say for most guys we pass by on a daily basis. Here’s why a cheesy pickup line actually worked on me:

  1. He was confident. There isn’t a girl in the world that doesn’t like a confident guy. That’s why so many guys would rather err on the side of cocky, and it usually works for them. They know they aren’t going to get anywhere unless they make a move.
  2. He wasn’t afraid of rejection. Not only was he walking up to a girl he didn’t know, but he did it on the subway in front of a bunch of people who would potentially be witness to his rejection. But that didn’t seem to phase him at all. Rejection isn’t actually as scary as we make it out to be in our heads.
  3. He didn’t need to hide behind a screen. Some of the messages girls get online are so ridiculously offensive that you have to wonder what these guys are thinking. Would they say things like that in person? Probably not, which is why they’d rather hide behind a screen and say rude things than say something genuine and risk being shot down.
  4. There wasn’t anything for me to immediately use to disqualify him. Sometimes online dating profiles are just too much information too fast. There are so many chances for me to say, “Oh, he likes this, or he said that, he’s not for me” that I probably won’t make it to the end of a profile and still be interested in someone.
  5. It was creative. OK, it’s not like I’ve never heard of that line before, but no one has actually had the guts to use it on me. Also, it’s a lot more interesting than the standard, “Hey, what’s up?” that seems to be every message I’ve ever gotten while online dating.
  6. He wasn’t afraid to look silly. Instead of going the obvious, “Hey, what’s your name?” route, he opted for a pickup line. That’s a bold move, and he was risking looking like a complete idiot if I wasn’t interested. But sometimes being unafraid of looking kind of goofy is really attractive.
  7. It showed his sense of humor. Chances are he knew his pick up line was silly, but that just showed that he didn’t himself too seriously. Every girl loves a guy who can laugh at himself.
  8. He was impossible to ignore. It’s pretty easy to ignore guys online, but when someone comes up to you in person, you have to either give them a chance or just be honest and say you aren’t interested.
  9. It didn’t feel like a hookup attempt. Online, and a lot of the time in bars, it feels like guys are just killing time until they can ask you if you want to hook up. But if a guy strikes up a conversation on the subway or somewhere else non-threatening like the park or a coffee shop, girls are a lot less likely to assume they’re just looking for sex.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.