A Guy Who Wants To Be In Your Life Will Make An Effort To Stay In It

Although guys might seem confusing AF, the truth is that dating is pretty simple. If a guy likes you, he’ll want to hang out with you, and you’ll never have to wonder how he feels about you. Here’s why a guy who wants to be in your life will definitely make an effort to stay in it:

  1. He’ll make you his number one priority. Sure, he cares about his career and getting where he wants to go, and of course he still loves his friends and family, but the guy who’s truly into you will do his best to make you his number one priority. He won’t ever cancel or reschedule plans, even if he’s having the busiest work week ever or is under the weather. This is the kind of guy who’ll still want to hang out with you even if he’s got an epic cold (although a make-out session might be out of the question).
  2. He won’t be able to live without you. As soon as he realizes how much he cares about you, that’ll be it. He won’t be able to imagine his life without you and he’ll seriously appreciate how happy you make him. And since you hopefully feel the same way about him, that’s the best news ever.
  3. He’ll think that you have a positive influence on him. The most worthy guys and the ones who are truly boyfriend material (and #relationshipgoals) totally get how amazing you are. They see that you’re strong and confident and they really respect your work ethic. They know that you’ve not only changed their life but you’ve made them want to be the best version of themselves. And since they know that you have such a positive impact on them, they’re going to absolutely make time for you. They wouldn’t even dream of not doing that.
  4. He’ll miss you when you’re not around. Honestly, the best way to make a guy realize how perfect you are for him is to spend a bit of time apart… and he’ll miss you so much, he won’t be able to believe it. Of course, you only want to do this early on in the relationship, because then you’ll both have a talk and say that you can’t possibly spend that much time away from each other. And soon you won’t have to miss each other since you’ll hang out all the time (besides doing normal life stuff like going to work or grabbing drinks with your girlfriends).
  5. He’ll make you a massive part of his life. He won’t just introduce you to his family, he’ll invite you to spend holidays with them. He won’t just have you meet his friends, he’ll include you in regular hang-outs. He wants to stay in your life and so that means taking actions to prove to you that you’re a big part of his world.
  6. He won’t see small blips or hiccups as dealbreakers. So what if you’re not drinking this month or want to eat fewer carbs or are super stressed right now thanks to work? The right guy will love you for who you are and he won’t try to change you. He won’t see anything that happens as a problem. He’ll totally understand that relationships have their ups and downs and that you can get through whatever comes up. Since he wants to be with you, he’ll never see anything as a dealbreaker, which is super mature and comforting.
  7. He’ll always tell you how he feels about you. This is the type of guy who honestly might tell you that he likes you (or loves you) all the time. And you’ll probably be totally cool with that since it’s always nice to hear. It’ll be refreshing to always know where you stand and to always know that he’s so into you.
  8. He’ll constantly move the relationship forward. Once you get into a healthy, grown-up relationship with love and respect and compassion, you won’t believe the time that you spent wondering what guys were thinking. The guy who wants to stay in your life will constantly take things to the next level. From The Talk to those three little words to deciding when to move in together, he’ll never leave you hanging or worrying about whether he wants things to be as serious as you do.
  9. He’ll straight up tell you he’s not scared of the future. Guys have a reputation for being afraid of commitment. This guy will know that… and he won’t want you to think the same thing about him. He’ll actually tell you that he’s not scared of the future because he’s with you and he loves you and that’s that. He’s reminding himself that there’s nothing to be worried about and he’s reminding you that you can always count on him, too.
  10. He’ll be the complete opposite of every other guy that you’ve dated. He’ll keep plans. He’ll suggest date ideas. He’ll cook you dinner and be super romantic and he won’t care how cheesy he sounds most of the time. He’ll be emotionally mature and sweet and reliable. And when you meet the kind of guy who makes a massive effort to stay in your life, you’ll know it. Because he’s the opposite of the other guys that you’ve been with. And he’s the one that you’ve been waiting for.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.