10 Things A Guy Who’s Worth Your Time Will Do Without You Having To Ask

We’ve all dealt with at least one smooth talker in our lives. That’s the type of guy that knows exactly what to say to ease his way into your heart. Unfortunately, sometimes words are just words, and a guy like that is often more into the conquest than the actual relationship. Wondering if your new boyfriend is actually worth your time? These actions will prove that his heart is legitimately in the right place.

  1. He chooses date locations based on a conversation you had earlier. He was listening when you mentioned wanting to check out that new gastropub and created an entire date around it. Even if it was a throwaway comment to fill up a conversation, he paid attention and knew it’d be a perfect place to take you. It’s nice to know that he’s not tuning you out. The fact that he wants this date to be special and memorable for you is really telling.
  2. He asks you about your family. Even if the story is messy, he’s still willing to listen if you’re willing to spill the details. Otherwise, he just wants to know about your mom and dad because they’re a big part of who you are. If this guy was in it for the wrong reasons, these aren’t the questions he’d be asking. He’d only have a personal interest in your life if he thought you’d be a big part of his.
  3. He watches some of the shows you like, just to keep you company. It might not be his thing to watch a Love It Or List It marathon, and that’s OK. But if he gives it a chance, or at least tries to familiarize himself with it since he knows you like it, then you’ve found a winner. As long as he doesn’t go so far as to mock it or make you feel bad for watching it, his heart is in the right place.
  4. He’s always friendly with your pets. Even if he’s not a dog guy, he’ll try his hardest to get your Maltese to like him. Pet owners are serious about their fur-children, and most guys know that it’s not a great look if their girlfriend’s dog treats him the same way they’d treat an intruder. If he comes over your house and brings a nice treat for your pup, you’re not only dating a genuine man, you’re dating a smart man who thinks ahead.
  5. He sends a follow-up text after dates. He doesn’t leave you hanging after a good date. The second that both of you are comfortably home, he sends a text reminding you that he had a fun time. If he plans a follow-up date afterward, even better. But if he’s too nervous, you can always take charge and plan out your next date.
  6. He doesn’t brag about his job. A job is an important thing for any boyfriend to have. It proves he’s dedicated and able to plan and control his own day. But if his job is particularly cool, he doesn’t rub it in your face all the time. If he does, he’s just trying to charm you into a brief fling, using status as a way to impress you. A guy who’s naturally confident in himself as a person knows there’s way more to a person’s background than just where they work.
  7. He’s courteous when talking about his ex. Even if it ended terribly, he’s never tried to name-call her or talk about how she ruined his life. A simple “It didn’t work out” is fine enough. That, or mentioning how they both wanted different things. Unless this girl was violent or is currently stalking him, there’s really no reason for you to know any more than that. So why is this point important? It shows that he values people, especially women. If this doesn’t work out, it’s nice to know he’d probably refer to you in similar ways.
  8. He doesn’t hide details, even if it’s about something embarrassing. If you ask him a question, he doesn’t get tense or accuse you of prying. That’s because if a relationship is meant to go the distance, it’s important to know the big stuff. That means he won’t hide a DUI from back when he was an irresponsible teenager, but he’ll make it clear that it won’t happen again. If he had kids that he’s estranged from, that’ll also come out. He knows these things may be dealbreakers, but also that they’d be a lot more hurtful if they were found out later.
  9. He sends you funny gifs and images if you’re having a bad day. It’s important that he’s figured out a few surefire ways to get you to smile. By paying attention to the things you think are funny, he’s able to nail it every time and make your workday a little more enjoyable. A guy who’s not all that into you wouldn’t simply respond with your venting texts with “that sucks,” or not respond at all.
  10. He’s a fan of subtle PDA. Openly making out with you on New Year’s Eve is a little showy. Quietly holding your hand in the parking lot is something else. It’s a special way that he shows he’s into you and doesn’t need the world to know. Those little touches and embraces prove that he’s genuine with his affection.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.