Guys, These Arrogant AF Dating Behaviors Are Not Cute

It’s pretty safe to assume that as strong, independent women, we need equally badass guys to rise to our level if we’re going to date him. We’re not looking for the richest, hottest guys, but rather ones that are smart, funny, and confident in who they are. However, there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and if we notice any of these obnoxious dating behaviors, we’re out:

  1. Thinking your opinion is the only right one. If you go on first dates and refuse to listen to our opinions and thoughts, you’re never getting a second date. It’s really as simple as that. You should never think that you know everything. How could you possibly? If you can’t be open to new ideas and experiences, you’re not an attractive person.
  2. Believing someone better is out there. Go ahead, don’t text us again because you think that you can head online and find a million more interesting women. That’s not going to get you very far because eventually you’re going to realize that you’re single because you’ve missed out on some truly amazing people. It’s not cute to think you have so many options… especially not if you’re ignoring us.
  3. Hogging the conversation. Maybe you didn’t get the memo, but it’s super lame to spend an entire evening talking about yourself. We’re going to be bored because you’re not really as fascinating as you think that you are. Dates aren’t a one-way street and relationships aren’t either.
  4. Only thinking about yourself. If you always leave dates after one hour because you have such a busy lifestyle and don’t want to spend more time getting to know us, you may think that’s no big deal. But it’s kind of insulting, and it just proves that you only think about yourself and your so-called crazy busy life. If you would just slow down and get to know us, you would realize how great we are.
  5. Asking us out with zero notice. Asking if we’re free for dinner or drinks tonight or tomorrow night seems innocent enough, but you’re completely missing the point. We have our own lives and schedules and we’re not going to cancel our plans to go out with you. If you want to be attractive, you have to ask us out ahead of time, so you prove that you respect our time.
  6. Making assumptions. You know what they say about people who assume, right? That’s totally true. You’re not going to get anywhere if you assume that we’re going to think or act a certain way or that we’re going to agree with you. You definitely don’t know us as well as you think.
  7. Being disrespectful. If you can’t respect us, we won’t date you. Simple as that. If you think that we’re on the same page as you, that we think this is a casual thing and that we could never be in a relationship, then you’re not thinking about your thoughts and actions affect us.
  8. Refusing to see us for who we are. Thinking that we’re like every other woman you’ve ever known is not going to work out too well. We’re all different and we all bring something totally unique to a new relationship. It’s your choice if you don’t want to get to know us. You just won’t see us again.
  9. Judging our choices. This goes for small stuff like what we order for dinner and bigger issues like our career dreams and goals. You can’t judge us. Well, you can, but you’re not going to get very far with us. The decisions we make on a daily basis have literally nothing to do with you, so you can take your arrogance and go bother someone else.
  10. Expecting us to love you. It’s not a given that we’re going to fall for you. It’s a choice, and it’s totally and completely ours to make. If arrogance is your usual mode of operation, we’re not interested. It’s not hot and it’s not ever going to be. So until you can think about someone other than yourself and become a more legit, compassionate person, we’re out of here.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.