When Guys Do These 12 Things In Bed, It’s A Total Turn-Off

There’s nothing worse than getting with a gorgeous guy, only to find that he’s vying for The King of Sexual Turnoffs Award in the sack. Ugh. These are things that guys need to stop doing because they’re not hitting the sweet spot — or anywhere within a 300-mile radius of it:

1. Going too fast. Whoa, are we having sex or are we in ‘The Amazing Race’? When guys rush through the stages of sex, it’s clear that they’re just after their own pleasure. They should have stayed home and masturbated instead. We just want them to take their time and actually build up to sex rather than trying to shove it in and get it over with.
2. Forgetting foreplay. Hello, guy over there getting ahead of himself, did you not get the memo? Foreplay is a must to get us in the mood and feeling aroused. Sometimes foreplay can be the best part of sex, which might be hard for guys to imagine, but there it is. If there’s no foreplay, we can’t enjoy sex as much as we deserve to.
3. Ignoring the love button. Penetrative sex is great and all, but not every woman can reach climax through sex alone. It’s scary how many men still don’t understand that the clitoris needs to be stimulated for earth-shattering sex. Geez!
4. Being a bedroom bully. It’s not just a turn-off when a guy is all about getting his own rocks off, but it’s just as much of a letdown when he tries to do things his way all the time. We’re trying out things or giving him some sexy attention; meanwhile, he’s tugging us to do something else that he wants to do. What a selfish jerk.
5. Acting like a prize because of their penis size. Some well-endowed guys think that they can pleasure a woman just by having a large penis, but this is a total myth because size really isn’t an indication of great sex. It’s also quite insulting to think that just because a guy has a large penis, that’s somehow enough to make a woman scream out in complete bliss. Ugh.
6. Doing dirty talk all wrong. Dirty talk can be really sexy and heighten pleasure during sex, but why do some guys think that they have to channel their inner rappers, like by calling us dirty whores or bitches? Thanks for the cold shower during sex. Much appreciated.
7. Not giving any lip service. Sex without kissing might be fun once in a while when a rough quickie is in order, but honestly, sex is generally so much better when there’s lots of kissing involved. It’s such a sexy turn-on and can make us feel so much more connected and in the moment. Skip the kisses and men make us lose half of our pleasure. Fact.
8. Doing something they haven’t run past us. Although it can be sexy when a guy takes control in the bedroom, it’s a turn-off if they try something kinky and out there without first asking if we want to do it, like trying their luck with butt sex or choking us before we orgasm. What, did they think we wouldn’t notice?!
9. Sticking to the same old thing. On the other side of the spectrum are the guys who will do the exact same thing in the sack because it happened to earn a few moans of pleasure the last 200 times they did it. Boring. It’s like they have PowerPoint presentations on what worked and why they need to continue doing it. Yawn. At least they’re close to finding a cure for insomnia.
10. Checking their phones. It sounds hard to believe, but one in 10 people have checked their phones during sex, according to experts from the University of Virginia and University of British Columbia. This is the ultimate diss and honestly, even just a glance in the direction of the beeping phone deserves nothing less than an abrupt kick out of the bed.
11. Telling us to come. Of course female orgasms are easily achieved by the guy saying, “Okay, come now.” FFS! That’s a guaranteed way to make us NOT come anytime soon and quite frankly it makes us want to stop trying to get there. Sex session over. Mission aborted. Thanks for killing our enjoyment and have a sparkling day.
12. Not being comfortable with sex talk. Research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that when people are comfortable about talking about sex, it improves their sex lives and sexual satisfaction. So if a guy can’t talk about sex, even during the act, that’s a turn-off. It’s a guarantee that we’re not going to get what we need because it means the guy’s not going to be open to taking a bit of direction. Great. So missionary again, then? Hmm. Let’s take a raincheck.