Guys, If You Do These 10 Things, We’re Going To Get Bored Pretty Fast

Saying that dating is frustrating is the understatement of the century. When we’re dating someone new, we know that it’s sometimes only a matter of time before things go south. Sometimes that’s our fault and other times, it’s totally on the other person. Guys, we’re going to get bored of you if you do these 10 things:

  1. Text without asking us out again Can we just agree that this is the most annoying thing in the world? If you like us, you need to text us… and actually make another plan. We’re going to be confused AF if you keep texting after the first or second date but don’t mention getting together again. It’s not up to us to figure out if you’re interested in us. You need to do that work.
  2. Double text because we didn’t answer fast enough Contrary to popular belief, sometimes we’re just not staring at our iPhones. We have jobs and lives and interests. When you double text because you’re mad that we didn’t text you back fast enough, we’re not going to be thrilled with that behavior.
  3. Refuse to plan a single date Since we’re totally cool with making the first move, something crazy has happened: we’re expected to plan every single date. We hate this. We need for you to come up with the restaurant or activity — not every time, but sometimes. Otherwise, we’re going to start thinking about our other options.
  4. Complain about something without making a change It’s one thing if you hate your job and are actively searching for a new one. It’s another if you loathe your current position but just want to bitch about it without doing anything else. If you’re always complaining about problems and refuse to find solutions, we’re going to get bored fast.
  5. Assume we want commitment from the get-go Sure, we probably do want a serious relationship, and we might even want that with you. That doesn’t mean that we’re looking to get a ring on our finger after the second date. If we decide to let you know that we’d be interested in seeing where things go, that’s not an invitation for you to freak out that we want to call you our BF. We really just want to know if there’s something between us or if we should walk away before wasting any more of our time.
  6. Treat us like your ex-girlfriend Maybe your ex got mad when you didn’t contact her every single day or had to reschedule plans. That doesn’t mean that we’re going to act that way too. When you treat us like someone that you’ve dated in the past, we’re not going to love that.
  7. Use our dates as therapy sessions Talk to us about all the things that have gone wrong in your life and we’re going to get bored. While we get that no one’s world is 100 percent perfect and we’d love for you to open up to us, we don’t want to be your therapist. We want to have fun with you and that’s not going to happen if you’re always in a bad mood or you’re always whining.
  8. Pursue us and then run away Every woman has had this happen at least once and it sucks every single time. You act like you’re into us, you initiate dates, you make all the moves… and then you totally disappear. You prove that you’re immature and that you can’t handle a relationship and we’re left pissed off but also totally bored by the entire situation.
  9. Expect us to chase you This happens the most in the early stages of a relationship and sometimes it happens even more when online dating is involved. We make a tentative plan for a few days later and when we follow up with the plan, you take forever to answer us. Not cool. We’re not going to chase you and we’re not going to become the kind of girl who would take that kind of crap.
  10. Get super vague when we try to DTR At the end of the day, we’re not going to keep seeing you if you don’t want a relationship at all. We’re not crazy to want to know where we stand if we’ve been hooking up and spending time together for a few months. When you get super vague when we try to have the talk or even change the subject entirely, we’re pretty much already out the door. Nothing bores us more than a commitment-phobe and we’re going to find someone who doesn’t shy away from a real connection.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.